Sorry—I posted in the wrong area. I removed it. I’m just going to repost here.
Hello,
This is my first post here. Sorry for the length of it, but I’m having quite a few emotions to say the least. I've read quite a bit of this site but have never had an account. I just made one to post because I need advice and, frankly, just to rant. My son (only child) is 7. l know everyone thinks their kid is a little angel, but he is truly the sweetest damn kid. He's passive to the point that we are working on getting him some sense of self-worth and confidence. He likes his long hair just so he can hide behind it—that type of passivity. He is also very small for his age.
Anyway, I'll jump into it: There seems to be some sort of trend in his class where the girls like kicking the boys in their privates for "fun." When I asked how often it happens and how he has handled it, he told me something along the lines of (paraphrasing) "Most of us had it happen. It hurts so much that no matter how much you try all we can do is just hold our privates and fall down and cry and can't get back up and stop crying. And a bunch of us get so sick some of my friends threw up. I did yesterday. I've never had something hurt so much mom. But they think it's really funny and laugh at us."
I asked where it happens. This is where I REALLY started losing my mind: He told me it has been mostly during recess, but that once 2 girls went into the boys room and kicked two of them (not him fortunately) down there and TOOK VIDEO OF THEM CRYING ON THE FLOOR. I asked if he'd gone to the teacher. He told me that a couple of them went together and she said (this time I’m NOT paraphrasing because it really stuck in my mind): "What did you do to make that happen? They wouldn't do it for no reason."
We're big on self-defense, whether you're a boy or girl. Telling an adult first is key, but if it comes to it, if someone is hurting you, mom WILL go to bat for you protecting yourself. I asked about that, and he just said (again, paraphrasing) "Mom, when they do it you can't do anything but fall down and start crying. It just hurts too much" I picked him up along with his best friend, and his friend told me pretty much the exact same thing. It doesn't just hurt, but humiliates them like crazy. They're so embarrassed by it.
He just recently told me, but he says this has been going on for some time. Having just learned about it two days ago, obviously I'm not a happy camper. I have an appointment this week with the teacher. Has anyone experienced anything like this? Any advice/feedback is welcome.