Teenage vaping

[HappydogRosie]

My daughter is vaping and when I confiscate the vape, she just gets another one. She climbed out the window in the middle of the night to go to a friend's to get another. She's 14. She doesn't have much pocket money. It's very difficult to discuss it with her as she won't engage. What can I do?

Do you take her phone away at night so she can't make plans to sneak out?

Would a GP appointment help, so the risks can be explained by a medical professional?

No phone and no pocket money for a start.

And I’d be monitoring her every move at night. I have a 13 year old and no bloody way she’d be sneaking out anywhere in the middle of the night. It’s not safe for a start. I’d be literally sleeping in front of her door if she tried to pull that stunt.

And I’d be limiting interactions as much as possible with the friends whose parents are supporting this crap. My dd doesn’t vape, but has a friend who does. Her parents buy her the vapes! She’s 13 bloody years old. My dd has distanced herself anyway because she thinks it’s rubbish, but I’d not be having that girl over and I’d not be facilitating a friendship outside of school. It’s different when they’re 16. But at 14, they don’t get total control over their social lives like an adult would.

And I’d spend time together one to one to start to rebuild the relationship and lines of communication because something has gone wrong somewhere. It will take some time to work on that and get it back.

Teenagers vape everywhere. I suspect its more addictive than smoking.

She isn't going to stop no matter what the punishment

What I would do is purchase a refillable, rechargable vape and get nicotine free juice to use in it. Then tell her she can vape that with no punishment but you will remove all other vapes and give a punishment if found. No nicotine will mean no nicotine addiction but also taking away the 'naughty' part by giving your ok for no nicotine vape hopefully will stop the willful behaviour

Thank you for all the responses. I've phoned nearly every agency and the doctor to ask for help and they have no products available for nicotine addiction for under 18s. It's all available for over 18s. The trouble is they get vapes in school, out of school on the bus home and from other adults who will go into shops for them. I've been monitoring her whereabouts and most of the time I'm with her. She's a month off 15 so can't keep her a prisoner! Some children are naturally conforming but others are strong willed and want to grow up too fast. She's been officially diagnosed with ADHD too so even if she has the intention of walking from A to B , she'll be interested in C on the way!!

I've stopped her seeing one friend whose mum buys her the vapes! The other mums I know understand the reality of having a near 15 year old. Even going up to the park would pose a potential risk of meeting a friend who is vaping! I have to somehow convey to my daughter the risk to her health and safety rather than coming down on her like a ton of bricks. Like one parent has said, she won't stop no matter the punishment.

Terrible for you.