Apologies in advance - will try not to ramble too much but need to vent somewhere 😂
DS in in yr3, I am by no means one of those mums who thinks their little darling couldn’t possibly ever do anything wrong - I absolutely know and will happily admit that my boy does/says silly things that get him into trouble! I will happily discuss any issues with a level head.
His teacher has openly told me he doesn’t get on with his year group and he fits in with the year 4/5 boys. He befriended twins in yr5 and it seemed to be a wonderful friendship, he thought the world of them but that’s all fizzled out now (I THINK due to my sons silly behaviour in school, calling kids names etc)
There is also a boy in year 6 who frankly is a bully, there are no other words for it. My boy is the same size as this kid and he will not back down no matter how often I tell him to walk away. This kid has thrown my son to the floor, rammed him into walls, goal posts, pinned him to the wall and more recently it appears has strangled him!! My son is not the only child to have issues with this kid. Another parent told me school are reluctant to really punish this kid because they’re wary of losing the funding they get for him (admittedly I don’t know how true this is) but I have flagged this kid to the head teacher and he swept it under the rug.
Twins sister is in a “relationship” with the boy that picks on my son.
DD (11) was playing Minecraft with her friend (who’s little brother used to be friends with my son but now seems to dislike him) twins joined the game. They got DD to get DS on the mic and the 3 boys started mocking my son’s character skin, son erupted and was rude so I immediately told him off and made him leave the room. I went back up to talk to DD and I could hear the kids discussing my son. Twins were saying about yr6 boy strangling my son and how this kid doesn’t start things (yeah right!) but will always finish it, like they thought it was cool. Other boys response was “yeah I saw that, I was laughing and laughing”
I told their dad about them being spiteful to him and he storms upstairs and tells the kids off over the mic, that if they keep treating his son this way he will be speaking to their parents. I’ve had messages off one of the mums, luckily we get on okay and could just discuss it.
My son was honestly distraught by this and once he calmed down he opened up and explained that these kids treat him this way in school. Always trying to wind him up (he’s an easy target as he will give a reaction) he says he has no friends and nobody likes him.
I really don’t know how I navigate this, it hurt to hear my son being spoken about nastily. Like I’ve said I know he will absolutely give as good as he gets so is often his own worst enemy but these kids appear to be ganging up on him a little. I know how horrible it is feeling nobody has your back.
School don’t ever tell me when something bad has happened to my son, only if he’s been in trouble. He’s unhappy going to school and I’m at a point where I feel awful dropping him off into an environment where I feel he’s unhappy and alone. Teachers never have any interest in his version of events and he knows as much, he comments on it.
Any advice gratefully received! Thanks if you made it this far 😅