Managing new born and 5 year old bed routine

[Sunshine8537]

currently my 5 year old goes for bath approx 6.10-6.30; some tv and story up until 7 ans then lights out.
my new born has bottle at 9pm and then to bed. I was hoping to have bath time around same time as my 5 year old but it’s not working.
any suggestions? What would people advise?

Why is it not working? Dont bath the newborn everyday. Alternate nights with both.

I personally didn't put my newborn in a routine until later and found that easier. I just took the newborn around with me during bedtime for the older one. I gradually made a joint routine around 6 months.

currently new born is on a 3 hour feed cycle - 6, 9,12, 3 etc. I’ve noticed at 5 he has a major kick off waiting for his feed so what I’ve thought is to start cluster feeding him at 5 then 7 and 9 (back to schedule) to make sure he’s a little settled for bath. Originally I was having bed time at 7 but it seemed too early and suggestions on the net say bed time routine at 8 and then down at 9 which surpasses my 5 year olds routine. I’m trying to get them to work alongside each other. Obviously I know I need to be flexible with new born. At the moment night feeds are falling on me so trying to think of a way where I can have some down time.

How old is your newborn? I couldn't imagine trying to get mine into any kind for at least a few months. They shouldn't be sleeping in a room away from you anyway for the first six months, where are you putting them down? Mine just slept on me or DH for the evening then we would move to bedside crib when we went up. Is your DH around in the evening? Can he sort the 5 year old so you just worry about the baby?

I think with a newborn it’s too early to get them into a bedtime routine. Ours just snoozed on one of us downstairs during the evening then went up to bed when we did. The times when I was by myself with toddler and newborn I made a nest for baby on toddlers floor and put him down whilst putting toddler to bed, then baby came down with me until I went up to bed.

Do you have a partner? Dh always did baths for both of them (baby first, then 5 year old), then I took baby and put him to bed, while Dh did bedtime for older one.

We definitely weren’t getting ready for bed at 6 though. We probably didn’t sit down to dinner til 6:30, so baby had to slot around that. On nights Dh wasn’t home, I did bath for baby, then bath for older one, then fed and held baby while I did bedtime for 5 year old, then baby and I would go to bed after.

Yes I have a partner. We alternate bath and bed for ou older one whilst other has the baby. I’m trying to figure out a good time to do bath with baby to fit alongside the feeds.

im trying to think back to what we did with our first and I can’t remember. I do feel like bed time was earlier but she was put down in the crib downstairs and went up to bed at 9. Whereas I’m just going up at 9… initially it was 7 but it was too early.

Baby is 6 weeks old

Baby doesn’t need a bath every day. Are you on maternity leave? Bath baby during the day.