Disabled mum, anxiety

[SimsieMomma]

Hey everyone. So I am disabled, suffer back pain due to a botched epidural, massive anxiety and still suffering postnatal depression 7 years later. I have a husband who works full time and a live in father-in-law who "helps" with housework.
I am just feeling a little out of sorts recently just feeling like im failing as a mum due to my crippling anxiety with going out, however i am making myself leave the house to pick my LG up from school its just going any where else after.
The physical pain is also making things harder like when she wants me to go running up and down the stairs for things or when she wants to play but it involves getting down on the ground, and i can manage for maybe a few minutes but the pain is horrible and so i cant play long. I have tried bringing things up to my level but she doesnt want that and can lead to melt downs (autism diagnosis in progress).

Im sorry if this is a little much i just dont get to talk much and struggle to find people who might be going through something similar. Thank you for reading <3 xx

Hey op, didnt want to read and run. Sounds like you need some pain management but also lower dg expectations. Activities need to no be ground level so can you get a desk or table for games etc?

What meds are you on?

I am currently on the waiting list. A previous assessment he told me I needed to lose weight and all my issues would be gone ( I do ofc but that’s not all the reasons behind the pain) I have some foldable tables due to small rooms x

I am on monjouro, sertraline, metaphormin, codeine and astrovastatin

Weight loss always seems to be the answer! Not so simple though or we'd all be slim wouldn't we!

That sounds really difficult.

You say your duaghter is autistic. Lot of women only realise their autistic when their child is diagnosed. I’m wondering if you’re autistic and that’s the source of your anxiety. Not the autism itself but managing in a NT world. It would make a difference from the way you tackled it/sought help.

Exactly! I’ve tried it all, low carb to no carb, shakes, calorie counting, slimming world, those shakes and having bare salad for my tea. I’ve tried all the swimming as it’s the least painful exercise but they just seem to want me to run for miles a day every day but I just physically am not made for it.
they have me in this group thing where we try to get a handle on our relationship with food which is a brilliant thing for other people but for me, I don’t have issues with food. I don’t binge eat I don’t emotional eat I don’t hate food I don’t love food. I eat when my body tells me to and I eat what I should with the occasional treat and even the coach/therapist doesn’t understand why I’m there. I seem to help some of the other people there but it’s not for me.
I’ve always said I don’t want surgery but when I’ve tried everything and side effects are making my mental health worse what am I supposed to do? ( I have nothing against surgery or those who have it I just didn’t want to personally have it, no judgement from me for those who do)

in sorry for overly rambling xx

Not rambling at all happy to listen. I dont know what the answer is but I can understand why this is affecting your mental health. Do you have talking therapy available near you? I've just dont a self referral as im struggling atm

Thank you. And they said I had to choose between my weight loss help and my mental health so I’m still on a waiting list for my mental health unfortunately x

That's rubbish. Its 2 separate issues. Id speak to GP, maybe get on some meds and ask for talking therapy.

im on meds but i will get onto them about talking therapy thnk you

Best of luck. The MH board on here is very supportive

Thank you I will find it xx