Currently agonising over contact arrangements.
I paused contact in the summer because facilitating contact with Dad was becoming too stressful as his behaviour was hostile and very difficult to manage and on one occasion, had to phone the police because he wouldn't leave the house after contact. We split only a couple weeks after the birth so baby was only months old and he was demanding overnights and entire weekends for contact when I was still breast feeding.
I felt the need to get a protective order and in that time he could have taken up supported contact at a contact centre (local church) but spent 6 months trying to negotiate having contact at his home.
Now supervised contact has been recommended and we started the referrals but somehow the contact centre feels less safe. Its in a rough area and there doesn't seem to be as many staff members on site and typically the rooms and the toys all feel a bit bleak...
Can anyone recommend a centre in the south west/Somerset that they felt was half decent?
Part of me wants to go back and take up dad's offer of contact at his home just because I know it will be a nicer place for baby to play but my concern is still safety and the fact that Dad has still shown no insight or accountability for his behaviour. Is an ISW at home really is a better option or I'm just wishing it was because I don't want us to be in this situation. He can present as attentive and loving 95% of the time, its just the 5% when he can just kick off which terrifies me.