How we should deal with arguments

[ThisOliveEagle]

HI. I can't manage the argument in my house. I have two daughters 7 and4 .they always argue with each other on really small things and also with me. I try to be kind but with all I couldn't and then I see that it's now that I am the bad one

It’s hard don’t beat yourself up. Firstly can they play seperately/ have different toys, do you have a dh can you tag team? Secondly try not to get involved, if they argue try to leave them to resolve it as much as you can don’t jump in to fix it. If they come to you, if there’s a clear wronged person ie ones hit the other or similar. Discipline the one in the wrong and then distract with an activity. If it’s all minor focus on a solution rather than getting caught up in it- one plays in one room and one in another or the toy is removed. Give them jobs / tasks if they seem bored/ mithering. Follow through on any discipline so they know you mean it. Try to save raised voice for when they have pushed too far so they know you mean it. You do need to have some element of control of a situation if you are arguing you are being treated as an equal so try to not let things escalate to arguments with you.
Basically try to manage the environment to avoid arguments, let them self resolve to some degree and don’t get drawn in. Discipline poor behaviour

Thank you for your recommendation—it was extremely helpful. It is truly difficult to find a balance between being a kind, joyful mother and someone who can also discipline her children.