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patsypam · 04/02/2026 19:38

Hello! I’m looking for some advice and guidance, my LB is 14 months (this month). He’s currently on 3x bottles of formula a day. Much of the reason I’ve still been offering formula is because his food intake wasn’t/isnt (although that’s improved) overly high and I was worried he’d be going hungry and wouldn’t be gaining adequate weight.

However, I’d like to try to come away from formula, and ideally, away from bottles.

I’ll offer our current schedule, I’d like to add I’m a FTM and am completely winging all of this.. with the best intentions for my boy, so please be kind.

6.30am 5oz bottle of formula.
8.30-9am - Breakfast

11.30-12pm - lunch
1pm 5oz bottle of formula (for nap) (although have been attempting to change this to cows milk but he’ll often refuse)

4.30/5pm - Dinner
6.30/7pm - 7oz bottle of formula for bed.

He had a valved straw cup for water throughout the day (valved to prevent spills as we are still very much in the tip it upside down, throw it around phase) but he will take water from a open cup also (if held by me). I’ve tried other sippy cups and he just doesn’t seem to grasp that he needs to hold his head back to drink or lift it to drink (he’s also never attempted to hold his own bottle).

The bedtime bottle I’m not overly concerned about for the time being, I know its apart of his routine and comfort, but I’d like to remove the morning feed and lunchtime feed if possible.

And possibly help him become a little more independent with drinking. I’d love to give him a bottle of cows milk in the morning that he could sit and drink independently, but I don’t know how to get there…. If I put it in his straw cup he has currently, he’d drink a sip or two and that’d be that.

any advice/tips or guidance appreciated. Also, I maybe over thinking all this, you read so much online and on social media I almost feel like I’m failing him by this still being a thing…

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mindutopia · 04/02/2026 19:53

I would start with breakfast at his age, not milk. No reason he can’t have breakfast at 6:30. Offer a bit of milk after.

Reduce the milk before nap.

Bedtime one, I wouldn’t be worried. Mine had bedtime cups of milk til 2 and 4, respectively. The recommendation is 500ml of milk a day until 5, I believe.

I’d be slowly switching all of it over to milk in the next month or two.

shardlakem · 04/02/2026 20:26

Agree, definitely skip the 1st bottle and go straight to breakfast. Weetabix with lots of milk could work?

Morning snack around 10

Lunch around 11.30-12 - could do milk here afterwards if it helps him settle for sleep? But aim to phase this out when you're ready.

Small afternoon snack around 3

Dinner around 5ish

Bottle at 7 for bed - my LO is 3 and still has a big cup of (cow's) milk before bed!

When I was first reducing bottles I mixed formula and cow's milk for a few days and then just went to warmed cow's milk, I'm not sure he even noticed 😂

patsypam · 04/02/2026 20:59

mindutopia · 04/02/2026 19:53

I would start with breakfast at his age, not milk. No reason he can’t have breakfast at 6:30. Offer a bit of milk after.

Reduce the milk before nap.

Bedtime one, I wouldn’t be worried. Mine had bedtime cups of milk til 2 and 4, respectively. The recommendation is 500ml of milk a day until 5, I believe.

I’d be slowly switching all of it over to milk in the next month or two.

Edited

The only reason we don’t do breakfast at that time is because we are usually rushing around to get ready for work/childminder. My husband usually gives him the milk while I’m in the shower, then he jumps in while i get ready, then once ready I get him ready, and we head out the door for the commute. So he usually has breakfast with the childminder.. so unsure what to do about that. I worry he’ll be hungry from 6.30-8.30 else? Xxx

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wishIwasonholiday10 · 05/02/2026 04:08

I don’t see any problem with morning milk at that age. My 3 year old still has a cup of milk when she gets up and before bed. She prefers breakfast after she has been up for awhile Can you try gradually changing from formula to cows milk (swapping an oz at a time)? Do you heat the cows milk to the same temperature as the formula?

SalmonOnFinnCrisp · 05/02/2026 04:31

shardlakem · 04/02/2026 20:26

Agree, definitely skip the 1st bottle and go straight to breakfast. Weetabix with lots of milk could work?

Morning snack around 10

Lunch around 11.30-12 - could do milk here afterwards if it helps him settle for sleep? But aim to phase this out when you're ready.

Small afternoon snack around 3

Dinner around 5ish

Bottle at 7 for bed - my LO is 3 and still has a big cup of (cow's) milk before bed!

When I was first reducing bottles I mixed formula and cow's milk for a few days and then just went to warmed cow's milk, I'm not sure he even noticed 😂

This. Switch to organic cows milk

Our kids often got 2 breakfasts.
Your dh needs to feed wheetabix with milk or porridge with peanut butter and or banana.
Or Just a banana? If

You want cal dense food. Mash with butter and milk avocado nut butter etc.
Talk to the cm about it.

My oldest loved milk. we kept bottles for nap until and 2 and bed until 2.5. She just loved milk at bed. We watered it down when she got bigger and she eventually refused

What centiles for height and weight is he on?

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