Hello,
I am hoping to get a bit of advice. My 12YO Son has had a phone at mine for 2 years now and this Christmas his Mum got him a phone for "her house". He has never taken the phone at mine to hers because she has said she doesn't want him to have a phone there until she is ready and I've respected that so it has always stayed at mine.
There is no history of anything negative, we coparent really well - we visit Christmas Light Walks together co-parenting etc. and we get on great.
I have explained that as the phone he has at mine is getting old now he should just have one phone between both houses. She has however explicitly stated that he will never bring his phone from "her house" to mine and most children have two phones when the parents are separated.
Now, I may be out of the loop but is this a common thing? I think having two phones with two numbers is just confusing for him, but also the fact that it displays distrust between us as parents when there genuinely isn't any. For his 13th Birthday she has organised a caravan week away and I'm going down for two of the days to spend time co-parenting with her.
Does anyone have any advice on how I can approach this with her and hopefully explain to her the pros of having just one phone vs having two?
Small caveat as well - she homeschools him full-time so the "taking two phones to school" argument goes out of the window.
Thanks in advance!