So, me and my ex share a daughter who’s nearly 6, I was on my own with her from her being about 18 months and he had her every Sunday whilst I had her every night and he was out drinking n doing whatever, 6 months after we split he got a girlfriend and got her pregnant the same month they got together, but he still only saw his daughter like once or twice a week seperate days, if I ever asked him to have our daughter overnight and I would ask months in advance, there would always be an excuse, sometimes there’d be an excuse to why he couldn’t see his daughter on his day and it would always have something to do with his girlfriend, so a good 2/3 years of me being in my house every single night. Anyway, my issue is, the thing that angers me the most, is the fact he does the bare minimum, sees his daughter the bare minimum, pays the bare minimum, never takes her to any appointments, doesn’t take her dance, he’s picked her up from nursery/school about 5 times and she’s been going since she was 2, if I ever asked him to take her to the drs he would only do it if it was convenient for him, he’s cancelled taking her on holiday n stuff because he “can’t afford it” but he’s managed to pay for a wedding and now on his second child with his wife, she’s no better she thinks the sun shines out of his arse. A few weeks ago around Christmas I needed to go a&e with an injury to my spine and I have no childcare so I asked if he could have her overnight just soo I could go and he said no, I asked again a couple days later because I was in so much pain and he said “no go Sunday when I have daughter” so I lost my sh*t tbh, after much arguing after I spent 16 hours in a&e and had multiple X-rays and mris cts etc and was being kept in for the spinal team to review me he did agree to have her but then once she was at his all I got was “are you home yet” “when are you going home I have work tomorrow” but it’s absolutely fine for me to miss work when daughter is ill but he couldn’t miss one shift, he’s never stayed home when she’s ill he brings her home early. He never invites her anywhere on weekends that aren’t his but he’s seen her when we’ve gone to the same thing and I just think like why would u not even ask??? 3 nights a month and he doesn’t ask for anything extra. Idk what the point of this post is I’m just sick of it I’m just angry that he expects to be called father of the year and shit and he does nothing, like actually does nothing, i hate him lol, why do people enable it and why am I the bad guy for providing every bit of uniform, dance, dance outfits, school stuff, parties, outings, i take her to see her friends, i treat her, I take her to every appt ive sat in a&e with her, ive took her abroad etc and im the bad person?? To everyone else im actually the bad one and im just sick of it