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Don't blame me for my privileges

26 replies

LilacHedgehog123 · 26/01/2026 14:56

I have a friend who is driving me mad.

Bit of background:
I have 2 kids, she has 1 (and is going through IVF for the second).
I work part-time and she works full-time.
I have a big family and lots of grandparent support, she doesn't.
I enjoy my job, she doesn't.

She's constantly saying things like "It's ok for you as you only work part-time" OR "It's ok for you, you got your second baby for free and I'm having to pay mine" OR "I can't come out for dinner / go to that gym class / go to the cinema etc because unlike you, I don't have free childcare...

I realise I'm lucky and I don't take anything for granted but I've found myself engaging with her less recently because I've had enough of listening to it.

Am I being unreasonable? How can I say to her gently that I'm sorry for all my privileges but I'm done with feeling guilty about it?

OP posts:
Hellohelga · 26/01/2026 16:11

The days of that friendship are numbered. She resents you. She will never be happy for any goodfortune that comes your way. Eventually you will resent her too.

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