I'm sooo tired I could cry

[wonderstuff]

But it really wouldn't help would it, so much to do, washing basket full of clothes to put away, washing machine full of clothes to dry, laundry basket full of clothes to wash, kitchen needs cleaning, washing up to do. DD started crawling adn so needs constant attention, curretlly playing with candle with telephone round neck Just need to know its not just me and it does get easier, she's 7 mo

Poor you it is hard and some days very hard will get easier have something nice to eat.

It´s not just you, and it wont get easier...somedays I feel I could scream because of the enormous amounts of endless things to do. I am a lone parent with 3 teen agers and wish you some calm...It wil get much worse, trust me so you shoulb better enjoy the peace now!!!

Have a nap with her in the morning. This will help. The house work can wait, look after yourself first, you are more important.

It isn't just you.

I am sure it does get easier... my house is pretty much the same, CSWS is visiting tomorrow and at the moment she will be kicking a path to a chair.

Oh, and the constant attention... DS has just fallen out of the apple tree because I dared to attempt to do dinner whilst DH was wiping DD's bum

Erm, not sure that was a positive tale, but you're not alone

It will get easier when she's one.

Then you have another and the hell starts again X 10.

It gets a lot easier when you give up caring. I've had the same load in the washing machine for 3 days...everyday I rinse it to freshen it, but I think it might rot soon......

LS - I have weeks of washing the same load over and over again!

It isn't just you. My DS is 3 weeks and I'm on my own most of the time.

If I don't sleep, I feel like a zombie... and cry like a banshee.....

that doesnt mke me feel better fadaoriana
She has just thrown up on third outfit scince tea, do you think if i stop feeding her my washing pile will become managable?? Avenanap (love the name) I find if i do that then a) even less gets done and b) she wakes up just as i'm dozing off...

I'm sure glass of wine and early night and it will all be better in the morning

Easier? No it doesn't!

Mine are 3, 5, 7 and more tired now than I ever was when they were little - the difference is just that you get used to living in a permanent state of exhaustion!

youcannotbeserious - have you got some help?

youcannotbeserious, that must be hard, I found after 12 weeks there were more days when i was less tired..

HI anna -

(Wonderstuff - sorry to hijack)

I've catagorised my days into days Harry sleeps well (AKA I sleep more than 4 hours) when I feel like the luckiest, happiest woman in the world to have such a perfect gorgeous son and days he doesn't sleep well (AKA less than 4 hours) when I feel like a living dead zombie..........

You need help. Please get it .

All you can do at this stage if you have no partner around (and I was like this when my DD was born) is breastfeed/care for baby/try to recover. You will set yourself up for PND/health problems if you aren't relieved of chores and errands. Please get some help

its a nightmare when they dont sleep because the are more demanding and you have less energy. People told me kids were hard work but i didnt realise how hard

Have a little cry. Its okay. Hang the done washing out to dry and do the next load tomorrow. Start saving for a dishwasher if you can.

I think it does actually get easier when you get some decent sleep. Its never easy, but sleep helps a lot. Here is a shoulder for you to have a little blub on ...

Absolutely wonderstuff.

My DD is 3.7 and I have kept her off school most of this week so that she could get her energy back. She was driving me insane wailing all the time. Today she is back to her lovely sweet self because she is rested - and of course, I feel so much better too...

Is dd your first? I found I was always working round my first and felt like you a lot of the time. It all seemed to get on top of me.
If dd seems to need constant attention and she gets it, she will find it hard to learn how to be on her own for any length of time.
Try putting her in her cot with some toys while you do one chore at a time.
She'll be safe. She may cry but it will be a cry for your attention, not because she is hurt. So give her your attention when you've done one chore.
Or put her in the pram in the garden while you hang out washing. She'll enjoy watching you.
Or put her in a back carrier.
It does get easier. But you have to adapt to get there.

She is my first and I do try to leave her for a bit while ii get things done, i have ggod days too just shattered today, worrying about stuff at the mo which is energy zapping too. Leaving her is getting tricky now she is more mobile, she keeps getting her legs caught when i put her in the cot, might start looking for a play pen

I always find a good cry does help actually!

If you have space for a play pen, I highly recommend it. You can make it into a haven not a cage. DD is 3.6 and still asks to go in playpens when she sees them!

You could try a relaxation tape or CD for naps. I used that so that I could go off quickly. After nearly 2 years of continual naps (from when I had 2 DCs under 2 to 2 DCs under 4) I am now an expert napper and can refresh myself in 20 mins.