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18 year old always late

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Moon30 · 19/01/2026 09:25

My DS is late for college every day, he was the same at school, he just lays in his bed after having a shower and just doesnt move and looks at his phone. This morning he didn't get out of his bed until 8.40am, he has to be at college for 8.45am. He went to the bathroom and he's still not left the house, even though he needs to catch a bus. There's no urgency to him at all and it drives me insane and now that he's 18 I'm not really sure there's anything I can do about it? He does have IBS and sometimes this is a genuine reason as to why he's late but sometimes he's very clearly just using this as an excuse to be late. His late marks are marked down as unauthorised absences and unless i feel it's genuine i've stopped ringing in as I'm just making excuses for him at this point. He say's he likes his course, so I don't think it's that. For the first 6 weeks or so when he went back to college after summer break, he was on time every day but then reverted back to being late, so i know he can do it.

It's not just the lateness either, he's so inconsiderate to the rest of us in the house, he's so loud on his headset, yelling and swearing, despite repeatedly being told to stop swearing and to keep it down. He apologises and then goes back to doing it again not even 5 minutes later, on weekends he's up until the middle of the night, keeping us awake.
We've done all the turing the internet off etc taking his phone in a morning so no distractions but now he's 18 he's become much more inconsiderate, like he has a I can do what I want attitude and I'm not sure if 18 is too old to be banning off his devices! Does anyone have any tips and advice?

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Meadowfinch · 19/01/2026 13:32

I have a 17yo boy who isn't keen on getting up.

Our router would be off and locked in the boot of the car overnight. I'd cancel his phone contract so he'd need to go to college to use their wifi.

I'd also wake him up every 5 mins from 7am until I left the house, and cancel all pocket money. If he can't be bothered to go to college, I certainly wouldn't be funding his lifestyle. He needs to get a job.

My ds, thankfully knows that if he gets up I'll drop him at the bus stop, if he doesn't get up soon enough, he'll have to walk. A zero tolerance policy is best. And don't blink first.

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