My 2 year old suddenly won't go anywhere near his dad?!

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So I have 3 children, a 2 year old (27 months) and 4 month old twins - so my toddler has always been very close to me, much more than his Daddy or anyone else.

When I gave birth to my twins, I unexpectedly had a 2 week stay in the hospital - my child stayed with Daddy and family, he didn't speak about me at all but once I was home, he screamed if I left his sight even to just go to the bathroom.

I gave him all of my time. I spent less time with my twins and would more when my toddler would go down for a nap or in the evening, however he starting glueing himself to me.

Eventually this stopped. He now loves the twins, sometimes will ask for them - his relationship with me is closer than with everyone else, but let's me breathe a little. I can go out or do something and he won't always ask or follow me. However, all of a sudden he absolutely can't stand his dad.
We do co sleep with him (huge regret, let's skip past this because it's a work in progress), however when my husband now gets into bed - he will cry and kick and scream daddy leave, Daddy go.

It upsets his dad a lot, he's spent more time with him - bought him a toy etc, nothing works. His dad does work a lot so he doesn't get to see him much, however when he's home he does play with him a lot. I don't know what to do, is this normal?

Kids get this way about their mom especially with the new additions. Your 2 year old may be feeling displaced by the twins presence and cling more to you. I do not think your toddler is rejecting the Dad. Just clinging to you more and his Dad may come across as someone who is preventing that. Give it time. Include your 2 year old more in the twins care. The reassurance that your toddler has not been displaced need to come from you more then he will not see others are keeping him away from you. Congratulations momma.

Mine did this too. Sometimes hated his dad other days me. Both eventually stopped with age

All 3 of mine did this too - I started to take a few hours to myself on Sunday Mornings so they would get used to Daddy again. Only 2/3 hours but it did help with the separation anxiety, I also found nursery helped around that age for building independence. Mine only went for 2 days a week until preschool age but it really helped.

I wonder if it's a reaction to the unexpected separation? That must have been frightening for him and difficult for him to understand, being so little. Of course totally unavoidable and not anyone's fault.

Something I've heard which can help with this kind of thing with very young children is to make a little storybook explaining what happened and finishing up with a point everything is happier and more settled. You can just use paper and bad stick drawings (give them the right hair and a recognisable piece of clothing) or photos.