My husband and I split up almost a year ago. Kids are upper stages primary school and handled everything so well at the time but one of my daughters is struggling a bit now (age 10). They go to their dads every other weekend and one night in the week. She has always been more of a ‘mummy’s girl’ and I know she loves her dad too, but when she’s there, I am nearly always getting messages from ex saying she’s crying for me, she wants to speak to me. And when I have chatted to her on the phone it just ends up with her in an even bigger state than she was before. She needs to spend time with her dad but at the same time I don’t want to cause a rift between us if I ignore her and keep saying no that she can’t come
back to me. She wants to stay with me tonight, but it’s his weekend. How to I handle this to keep the balance right. Other daughter is coping fine. Ex and I are amicable so they don’t see us arguing, we’ve very much handed things calmly in order to keep the kids as settled as possible.