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2 children in one bedroom.. boy/girl. Help!

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Robinoaks · 13/01/2026 22:20

Hi all. I am a solo parent.
I currently live in a private rented house with my 3 kids aged 13 (boy) 11(boy) and 8yr old daughter. We have a 4 bed, it's lovely but it's costing me a fortune at £1625pm.
My eldest who is 19 recently headed off to Uni in September and I've been offered a very sweet little 3 bed cottage.
The location is much better for my neurodiverse 13yr old, he's been struggling to attend school and we are quite a distance away from his school at present.
The 3 bed is a living room, medium size kitchen and a downstairs bathroom then 3 double bedroom upstairs.
My plan would be to put my eldest in the smallest room, he has autism and him sharing a room is not safe for anyone!. Me in the middle room and then my 11 and 8 year olds in the biggest room together, maybe in bunk beds or cabin beds with some sort of room divider? Is this a bad idea?
I could put a sofabed in the living room but I really don't like the idea of not having a proper bedroom for my own privacy. The other option is for me and my 8 year old daughter to share. I'm a single parent with no man and no plans for one so it's an option.

The new house (if I get it) is much cheaper rent and all in all just a better option I'm just struggling to work out how best to arrange everyone.
Suggestions welcome!

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Backtoblack1 · 14/01/2026 04:15

Girl in with you or sofa bed.

FaceDownInAPuddle · 14/01/2026 05:15

Andthatrightsoon · 13/01/2026 22:47

I think you're being selfish. With four children you can't just decide on moving to a 3-bed and then insist on having one of the rooms to yourself.

She is asking for suggestions and one of the options she provided was to have dd in with OP. Not selfish at all, just asking for advice.

Starseeking · 14/01/2026 05:25

I would not have a boy and girl of those ages sharing a bedroom. If you need to move into the living room to accommodate the situation, you should do that.

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cobrakaieaglefang · 14/01/2026 06:49

Girl in with you, I shared with DM from 7 to 17. It's not a problem.

WallaceinAnderland · 14/01/2026 13:47

Why can't you share the biggest room with your dd?

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