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Reported to social services

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Badwowwow · 13/01/2026 12:36

My local authority went on to fortnightly collections and since then I have struggled so much with rubbish! I have 4 kids and there is too much to last 2 weeks! I don’t have a car so can’t take it anywhere myself and can’t dump it anywhere. So because of this and it being Xmas I have had extra rubbish! A few times the foxes have torn the bags open if it’s not in the bin and I clean it but still left with additional rubbish as my local authority won’t collect any additional rubbish and will only collect what’s IN the bin. I have admitted this is a struggle for me as sometimes bin collectors don’t turn up then I’m left with a situation where the rubbish hasn’t been collected for even longer. Well someone has reported me to SOCIAL SERVICES!! Because of this, Social services! Really! I’m so upset that someone would do this. What will happen now?!

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Vodka1 · 13/01/2026 14:45

Listen, it doesn't help you right now but try to understand & remember social services absolutely need to chase up things - malicious or not. It's a shit referal and it will be over with really quick.

Let them speak to the school, it'll make it all go away quicker.

What area are you because most do allow extra rubbish for the pick up directly after Christmas

Fire bin? £20 and burn it?

ClawedButler · 13/01/2026 14:45

Honestly, some people seem to have nothing better to do than kick single parents when they're down.

CaptainMyCaptain · 13/01/2026 14:46

AutumnAllTheWay · 13/01/2026 12:41

Social services will do absolutely nothing and put it down as a malicious call, please dont worry

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Badwowwow · 13/01/2026 14:48

I live in London so most things are more expensive here, I did look into waste removal a little while back but they wanted a lot of money for it. I will have no choice now though.

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Badwowwow · 13/01/2026 12:42

I’m so upset they want to contact my kids school so now they all going to be judging me. I have raised it with them they just say they will get round to it but the bins haven’t been collected since before Xmas.

When I was a teacher I sometimes had calls from Social Services asking if I had any concerns. If I didn't then I said so. Your situation is not that unusual, if it's only about bins nothing will happen.

Mucky1 · 13/01/2026 14:49

Get a skip they’re about £80 and chuck it all in there plus anything else you’ve had knocking about that needs to go 🙌

DinkyDaffodil · 13/01/2026 14:49

Just a thought - do you recycle enough ? does your recycleling get collected more frequently?
An S/S will not do anything over this - just a nosey neighbour I guess - with too much time on their hands.

Badwowwow · 13/01/2026 14:50

Stickyicecream · 13/01/2026 14:44

Take your extra rubbish to the local dump? We did that before Christmas as packaging was removed from Amazon deliveries or gifts coming in. Made life a lot easier

I don’t drive as explained otherwise it wouldn’t be an issue at all.

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LadyBlakeneysHanky · 13/01/2026 14:50

I find it a bit grating to read all the PP exhorting the OP (who I think is a single parent?) to create less rubbish -along the lines of ‘well there are only 2 of us but it takes us 6 months to fill the bin so I really don’t know what you’re doing tralala’ or whatever.

For one thing, if you have 4 children living with you full time, your waste position will be completely different from that of a childless couple, or a couple whose children just come to stay in uni holidays. Really completely different. Especially at Xmas when any missed collection will just lead to disaster.

For another, waste disposal is a lot like healthy eating in that it’s a lot more difficult to keep on top of it if you are time-poor (as single parents tend to be) and stressed and run ragged with other commitments. The less time you have, the more likely you are to rely on convenience foods, and the less likely you are to have time or energy or head space (or even the physical stamina) to sort through rubbish, compact it, ensure it is put on the right day etc (in our area for instance we have to remember 4 different collections a fortnight, all on different days, and because we are not allowed to use bins, only bags, have to put the right bags out each time, by 7am on the correct day but not before 7pm the night before 🤯).

I rather think this is another example of relatively privileged people not understanding the challenges that can be faced by time-poor and stressed single parents. (The Marie Antoinettes of mumsnet, you could say.) There are many aspects of life that are easier if you are in a couple and relatively prosperous - healthy eating is one, looking after your mental well-being is another, and keeping on top of waste in our very complicated modern system is just one more.

CaptainMyCaptain · 13/01/2026 14:50

BunfightBetty · 13/01/2026 14:06

I may be mistaken, but I think you need to give consent for them to contact the school?

I dont think you do. OP needs to be honest and upfront about this though and it will be dealth with and finished quickly.

GrowThroughWhatYouGoThrough · 13/01/2026 14:50

I don’t know if this is any help but I sometimes pay a company Bukka I think it’s called to empty my council bin if I have extra or the bin men are on strike. Not ideal but they are reasonably priced

Tresd · 13/01/2026 14:51

Do you know what, I would go round to her house, brazen it out and say, oh hi neighbour, I live at number 42, I have 4 kids and a lot of rubbish and was wondering if you had space in your bin for a couple of my bags? I've been reported to social services over it so I would really appreciate it if you could spare the space as I don't drive and it's problematic when the bin men don't come?

Other than that, you can pay waste companies to clear litter. They vary massively in reputability and cost and you are responsible for checking their waste certificate as if they fly tip it, it does come back on you.

CautiousLurker2 · 13/01/2026 14:52

shellyleppard · 13/01/2026 12:38

Its a nightmare with rubbish collections at the moment. If your little ones are under 3 I think you can get an extra bin? Might need to check with your local authority tho

Yes, was going to say when a friend of mine had twins and therefore 3 under 5, she was given an extra bin. I think a local counsellor or your MP (someone in their office) can often support this by writing a letter. Never had to give it back!

Badwowwow · 13/01/2026 14:52

LadyBlakeneysHanky · 13/01/2026 14:50

I find it a bit grating to read all the PP exhorting the OP (who I think is a single parent?) to create less rubbish -along the lines of ‘well there are only 2 of us but it takes us 6 months to fill the bin so I really don’t know what you’re doing tralala’ or whatever.

For one thing, if you have 4 children living with you full time, your waste position will be completely different from that of a childless couple, or a couple whose children just come to stay in uni holidays. Really completely different. Especially at Xmas when any missed collection will just lead to disaster.

For another, waste disposal is a lot like healthy eating in that it’s a lot more difficult to keep on top of it if you are time-poor (as single parents tend to be) and stressed and run ragged with other commitments. The less time you have, the more likely you are to rely on convenience foods, and the less likely you are to have time or energy or head space (or even the physical stamina) to sort through rubbish, compact it, ensure it is put on the right day etc (in our area for instance we have to remember 4 different collections a fortnight, all on different days, and because we are not allowed to use bins, only bags, have to put the right bags out each time, by 7am on the correct day but not before 7pm the night before 🤯).

I rather think this is another example of relatively privileged people not understanding the challenges that can be faced by time-poor and stressed single parents. (The Marie Antoinettes of mumsnet, you could say.) There are many aspects of life that are easier if you are in a couple and relatively prosperous - healthy eating is one, looking after your mental well-being is another, and keeping on top of waste in our very complicated modern system is just one more.

Thank you yes I am a single parent to 4 so it’s shocked and upset me more someone would be so spiteful.

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CaptainMyCaptain · 13/01/2026 14:53

Badwowwow · 13/01/2026 14:15

If I say no consent do you know what will happen? I just think this was clearly a nasty referral and don’t want that down on our school record.

The school won't judge you for that. If they have no concerns about your children they will say so.

PoachedSmoke · 13/01/2026 14:55

I sympathize OP. I had to do two tip runs to get rid of extra bags over Christmas (scored some neighbour brownie points by taking some of theirs too!) but 14 days plus between collections is insane. I have three teens so have so much recycling a lot of it has to go in the brown bin unfortunately.

Some things you can try -

Ask a neighbour who never has a full bin if you can sling a bag in there on bin day (make sure bags are clean and well sealed!)

Ask the council for another bin

Find a house that's unoccupied and use their bin (lol I've done this loads of times)

See if a friend with a car might do a tip run for you in exchange for a small fee/cooking them dinner or similar

Good luck. I will vote for anyone who brings back weekly bin collections as I'm at the tip so often I'm quite friendly with all the tip guys now!

GAJLY · 13/01/2026 14:58

if my bin gets filled, I take it to the main road which gets emptied first, then I bring it back to my close and fill it up with more bags, as the come to my close 40 minutes later. This works out well for me. Could you do that? Keep the bags in your garden for now, and pick up any of your rubbish outside.

PoachedSmoke · 13/01/2026 14:59

@GAJLY This is GENIUS. Off to Google the bin route!!!

MrsBobtonTrent · 13/01/2026 15:02

We generally manage fine with our bins and fit everything in with space. But now and again we get a missed collections, usually because of people parking like idiots and the lorry can't access our road. One missed collection I can cope with, but a couple in a row is painful. And I would imagine Christmas on top of that would be hard work. I couldn't get to the tip, so ended up getting a hippo bag (cheaper than a skip where we live) and made the most of it - big garden tidy and cleared out the attic. If you have the money, I would recommend it. I also have a "spare wheely bin" that I use to store temporary overflow. I got it on freecycle years ago - it's from a different county so wrong colour to get collected here, but is a tidy and foxproof storage place.

BangFlash · 13/01/2026 15:05

When I know it's going to be a struggle, like Christmas or strikes, I prioritise what needs to go out.

I currently have a load of cardboard folded flat behind my sofa, and a crate of glass bottles outside the back door, so that food rubbish and waste can fit in the bin for collection.

It is not ideal but better than having real rubbish lying around.

If you always have too much op you need a proper solution, a bigger or second bin. We can have an extra black bin if we have large families or multiple kids in nappies, and extra recycling bins for a small one off payment, and extra garden bins for a yearly subscription.

Crinkle77 · 13/01/2026 15:10

Every time you go to the shops or do the school run could you take a carrier bag full of rubbish and dump it in a litter bin?

Lemonade2011 · 13/01/2026 15:10

Total nightmare hard enough when you’re juggling 4 kids and work etc our bins are only emptied 4 weekly so you can imagine! However we do have a bigger grey (general) rubbish bin and others for plastic glass and paper etc you’ve done nothing wrong, I hope the council can work with you to help with this as it’s unpleasant having rubbish all over your garden - our cats once got into one and the dog helped I’d only popped it down to run inside to answer the door and forgot about it.

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Badwowwow · 13/01/2026 15:12

Crinkle77 · 13/01/2026 15:10

Every time you go to the shops or do the school run could you take a carrier bag full of rubbish and dump it in a litter bin?

Unfortunately they are usually full too which is why I know it’s not just me struggling but I will try to look further out as the ones by my house tend to be full.

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trappedCatAsleepOnMe · 13/01/2026 15:13

You may qualifiy for bigger bin so worth checking out your council website.

We also report any missed collections - as they often do come out next day and pick up from.

We have three week collections - and sometimes with 5 people in house and cat litter does back up even recycling everything we can especially if had any large packaging. We tend to store it in shed and try and get it sorted next collection.

Here you can with 10 bin bags or large items get things picked up for a price by council from curb - some time for matresses and other large items have to pay and use that service.

Frugalgal · 13/01/2026 15:13

GAJLY · 13/01/2026 14:58

if my bin gets filled, I take it to the main road which gets emptied first, then I bring it back to my close and fill it up with more bags, as the come to my close 40 minutes later. This works out well for me. Could you do that? Keep the bags in your garden for now, and pick up any of your rubbish outside.

Genius!!