Coparenting

[Lookingforadvice101234]

My ex split up with me when I was pregnant and my pregnancy was really difficult. I don’t want to go into too many specifics but baby is now
born , 5 months old. My ex has been difficult from the beginning , involving solicitors etc early on to try and gain control (he has had contact with the baby from birth). i understand him and I have to be in contact for the sake of the baby, but he sends long texts regarding things to do with the baby subtly making demands and so obviously written by chat gpt. They’re calm and reasonable texts but they’re obviously being utilised to control the narrative as what he writes over text versus what happens in real life are two different things. Has anyone any advice regarding this as I find myself getting so stressed everytime he texts me and I am nervously checking my phone all the time. I wondered how other parents navigate difficult communication

I would block and tell him he can contact you by email/or one if those coparenting apps. And then check them once a week.

It sounds as though you’re had a difficult time @Lookingforadvice101234.

I agree with telling him that you’ll only now be communicating through a Court approved app like MyFamilyWizard and then blocking him on everything else.

You also don’t have to reply straightaway to his messages or even reply to all of them. Only reply to thibgs that are directly to do with him having access like if he says “what time can I see DD?”. Think of it like training a Toddler. He gets a reply if he’s asking reasonable questions but if he’s behaving badly and questioning you, you ignore the bad behaviour and don’t respond.

The other good thing about the Court approved apps is that toh can upload expenses so he has less of an argument over how much money to provide. You have gone through CMS i take it?

Have a look too in the Relationship section. There are lots of MNers in there who have had similar experiences with awful Exs