Ds is 5, and he’s basically a good kid. I have to remind myself of this a lot because we clash a lot and I want to try to change this and be more positive and patient with him.
Things I find hard … his loudness. He is very noisy: plays noisily, never stops talking, finds it very difficult to wait his turn in a conversation or to wait to say something if it’s not a good time: he tends to get louder and louder (‘mummy … Mummy … MUMMY.’) I do ask him nicely to wait; have tried strategies like put your hand on my leg / arm but it hasn’t been very effective, he just carries on. It is really irritating and makes me snappy and brusque.
Impulsivity: I know five year olds aren’t famed for this but ds is very impulsive and will shoot off in a crowded place or (today)yanked a label off an expensive soft toy in a shop so I felt I had to buy it 
it just means I’m jittery when out with him as thinking what will he do next. This doesn’t tend to happen when it’s just me and him, I think because I can give him so much more one on one time.
Thinking about it he isn’t a problem at all alone. So I do think he is feeling left out (younger sibling is two and a half so not a newborn) I still feel I haven’t cracked parenting two very well. Any advice welcome.