Really pissed off with DS weeing all over the place and don't know what to do about it!

[cheekymonk]

Hi Everyone
Has anyone else experienced this?
DS was 3 in January and has been day potty trained for a good few months now. He goes to nursery 3 days a week and has not wet himself or had any issues for about 3 months. At home however, he pulls down his trousers and will wee in lounge and bedroom. It is usually when I am out of the room but one time I was on the pone and he just weed all over his table and turned round and grinned at me.
I have tried involving him in helping clean it up which makes him worse as he delights in doing a wee almost straightaway. If he was wetting himself then I would say he wasn't ready to be in pants but it is deliberate.
All I can think of is that we were out and too far away from toilets so I let him pee behind a tree. Has this caused this complete regression??
His dad is away and I worry is it a sign of distress etc but it feels like a power issue and more bloody minded than that. One day I took him to nursery in a nappy and they wer horrified saying it is preschool and they can't accomodate it etc.
I do feel it is linked to ds wanting to be a baby again as he often says this and is proccupied with ehether he is a big boy. I never put pressure on him to be a big boy but he has always wanted to progress whereas now I am getting a slow down mummy message.
He wears nappies/pull ups at night but will often take nappy off. Sometimes he will wet bed, sometimes he is ok.
Our one toilet is downstairs so always keep potty in bedroom. He has always used toilet fine until now.
The problem is obviously with me as he only does it at home.
Am just not sure what to think and what to do about it. Any ideas??? Have got nursery nurse coming but not until 19th!!!
Am also desperate as the house, to be frank, stinks and it is getting me down.

To be honest it sounds like this is mostly attention seeking. My ds has done this a couple of times and laughed. Has anything at home changed recently? Has your DP recently returned to sea? I don't think it is connected with weeing behind a tree tbh, as I frequently allow my ds to wee in a drain when out as the public loos are too small for my double buggy.

With my ds I just said oh dear, you'd better sit on the step then and ignored him for the 3 mins while I cleared it up, this was backed up with positive praise when he did wee in the toilet. And lots o9f ressaurance that your dp will be home soon, a good book I use with my dcs for this is Owl Babies, I forget who by, but fab for the concept that mummy/daddy always come home.

Good luck. Check on the good housekeeping threads, but I think it is bicarb of soda that will sort the smell

ah thanks ready4nothercoffee. I have talked to a few people and they all thin it is attention seeking too.
Dh has been away since the start of May and only back one weekend. He is back this weekend so will be interesting to see how ds is then.

Anyone else got any ideas or suggestions? Would be v grateful x

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Ignore him completely when he does it in the wrong place. Try not to show ANY signs of emotion at all. Dont let him help cleaning it up. It is hard my dd did this when her brother was born as soon as I stopped reacting she gave up.
Lots of praise when he does it in the loo. Maybe do a chart and he gets a reward when he uses the loo 10 times in a row. Don't know if that would work. HTH

Thanks Ecmo. I do react alot when he does it, so may try that option. Find it a difficult behaviour to ignore but will try. Thank you x