Daughter bullying Sister

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My eldest is 8. She’s generally nice but can be quite rude and snappy with her younger Sister (5).

She bosses her around and is really rude to her if she doesn’t do what she wants. She makes nasty comments towards her and puts her down.

What would be a suitable punishment to stop this behaviour?

Thanks

What have you tried so far?

Can’t abide a bully and you might remind her that Santa doesn’t either.

I have sent her to her room for an hour or so. She stays up 1 night a week as a treat, so I have also stopped that when she’s horrible to her Sister.

I feel like I need to try something a bit harsher, but I don’t know what.

So i would come at this from a different angle and require them.to "be a team" against you ot your dh other.both.of you.

We Race against them or have.competitions.on who gets.the.most marbles.in a jar or whatever.

We also give punishment that make sense big one sits out for 5 mind to calm down younger can keep playing but had to make tea.and coffee for older ones return _ bulld.the fort they'll play in

As they get bigger i will keep structuring the home so if they cooperate its better for them

Big punishments are going to make her hate her sister more "she got me sent to my room" "its her fault my.ipadnis gone"

You want to get them working nicely together to get outcomes where they are rewarded.. "you guys did sure a great job let's get icecream. If you can guess your sisters fave flavpur you can get an extra topping"