School friendships - 7 year old

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Hi all, I’m after some advice please. DC1 for the past few months has been saying how much he doesn’t like his school & wants to move. Today said he felt isolated and not included. Plus friendships are a nightmare, one minute is friends with x and the next isn’t and it’s constant changing, arguments with x. He is now in Year 3, so the 4th school year so surely all of this should have settled. I’m getting stressed with it tbh. I have no idea is this normal for children’s friendship groups now? Or is there some justification to now try and move to a different school?

This all seems very normal at the school my daughter goes to. It drives me crackers. But I dont get involved as the next day they are best friends again. If you move schools it is most likely it will happen again. It gets worse when they get to Y6 and they have outgrown the school and each other and its awful.

Sorry, one it gets worse not better. It will be the same everywhere. He can’t move each time he falls out with friends, you’d run out of schools pretty fast. That’s not really typical language for a 7 year old. Make sure you aren’t making in to a bigger thing than it needs to be when discussing it.

Thanks for coming back, in a way it’s reassuring it seems to happen everywhere.

Thanks for coming back. Yes he’s 7 soon to be 8. He used those words when describing Friday as he had been off Monday/ Tuesday from being sick at school & felt he didn’t get welcomed back by anyone at the school!

It’s unfortunately very normal. In my experience dd had no issues in primary school until P7(in Scotland, last year before high school), then high school was a total nightmare and she didn’t have any good friends till she went to university.

DS had a horrible primary school experience for its entirety but blossomed in high school and thankfully at university too.

I think so much depends on the specific cohort of children in your child’s year. I worked in a primary school for 12 years and saw how a class dynamic could completely change with the addition or absence of one person.

Yes thank you, the teachers have said his year is full of strong willed children. I guess that’s what I was thinking of the school move as maybe more children he gets on with, but risk like others have said it will be the same. I think I’ve got myself a bit stressed as have to put down a school for DC2 in Jan & was contemplating if it’s the right school for them, based on issues DC1 is having!