Ex partner says our son acts feminine

[justamama31]

My ex partner has made a comment tonight saying our son is acting feminine because his father isn’t home.
It made me feel disgusted as I didn’t expect anything like this to come from his dad and he said it right in front of him too.
Our son is 5 and I don’t think what he has said was nice.
Children act like children and just because he lives with me and spends more time with me doesn’t make him feminine. He just acts like a normal child would.
Any comments on this would be appreciated. Thank you

He's your ex for a reason.

Feminine in what way?
It's very arbitrary which behaviours are supposedly feminine or masculine, and you obviously can have boys that do 'feminine' things and girls that do 'masculine' things.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. He's your son. Please don't feel disgusted at what he's like or how people label him. The labels are mostly pointless crap used to hurt or divide people.

Homophobia is still really common, and men’s obsessive protectiveness of their son’s masculine presentation can be quite terrifying. There was a thread on here recently by a woman who was saying that her husband was really against her buying a white piece of furniture for their son’s room.

Ask your ex kindly if he was bullied for not seeming butch enough. Or was he troubled enough to bully others for not being butch enough. And has he considered therapy for his masculinity issues. Because absolutely none of this has anything to do with your son, who is and will be fine if people let him be himself.

1st comment nailed it.

This!

First post spot on.

What a twat.

Oh dear. My son has always been the nurturing type. Lovely as a toddler with his baby brother, played with dolls (as well as cars, trains etc) as a small child. He’s now in the army and has just had his first child.
Yes, your son may be less “masculine” for not having the toxic stereotype constantly in his face. This is a good thing!