Fall outs

[Claire288]

Hi, basically my mil has nothing to do with her grandkids, she promises to take them out of have them for sleep overs but never goes through with it, she has her sisters kids at the drop of a hat and can’t do enough for them! My hubby is an only child so they are her only grandchildren. My husband called her out on this, but to our surprise she blocked him and me on everything, our children age 15,12,11 have picked up that she has her nieces but not them. She says she’s not maternal but again still has her nieces. Im really angry about the situation. What’s you’re opinion?

Its not her responsibility to have your children unfortunately op. It would be nice of course but just because shes their grandmother doesnt mean she has too.

So your mother-in-law refuses to have almost any contact with her grandchildren, (her only grandchildren), but you say that she is pleased as punch to take care of her niece / nephew anytime it is needed?

That sounds kind of odd.

I know it’s not her responsibility but to agree to have them and let them down constantly while our children see her treating her nieces all the time isn’t nice. She has them most weekend and has never had ours. I don’t know how to feel about it all really.

Yes. She’s never been a great mum to my hubby growing up she never wanted children.

We had a similar situation with my sister and her grandchildren. However, in that case my sister clearly preferred her daughters children to her sons children. She would make plans to do something with the sons children - such as watch on a school day off and then bail at the last minute. Same with taking them out for lunch or to the movies. She would get the kids excited to do something and then pull the rug out from under them. It was the most apparent at Christmas. She would talk for weeks about how she is completely fair and spends the same amount on each child, but then buy her daughters children something she called a "SHHHHHH present" because it was supposed to be a secret so the other families wouldn't find out. Of course it got out. I have never been able to understand why the sons continue to have a relationship with her.

Well there you go then, shes right shes not maternal. Forget about the nieces she’s literally telling you she is not interested. I know it hurts but you need to accept that.

Yes I know you’re right, she’s definitely maternal but with her nieces only.

@momtoboys it baffles me how they can do this, I just wanted other peoples views on it. My hubby has said he doesn’t want anymore to do with her

Why would you want to send your kids to a woman who is a bad parent?

Be glad she's not inflicting herself on them, it's a good thing.

@Abracadabrador because she’s Fantastic with her nieces but I suppose my kids can’t miss what they’ve never had