What would you think if your 9 year old asked you...

[MrsSnape]

My son (9) loves "Friends" and so I let him stay up and watch it on E4.

I like to be very open about sex and everything like that so he feels he can always talk to me and not find it embarrassing.

Anyway on last nights "Friends" Joey asked Ross "who would you rather sleep with, Rachel or Monica?".

I was in fits of laughters...DS smiled and said "I don't get it" so I said "Monica is Ross' sister" so he burst into fits of laughter too.

He then said "Ok...why would you rather sleep with, Chandler or Joey?" . I kept "neautral" about it as I don't want him to think he shouldn't talk about sex but obviously couldn't answer the question without it being a bit 'wierd' so I just said "You shouldn't really ask me that you know...." so he said "why?" so I said "well, it's not the kind of thing you ask your mum is it?" so we both began to laugh and carried on watching friends.

My question is, is this kind of talk "unsuitable", "innapropriate"? Am I being too 'liberal' with him?

Did I handle it ok or should I hav shown a bit more 'authority'?

Authority?

I would have said neither as I love daddy very much but if I didn't know daddy I would chose x.

I think it was a nice moment together and tbh I think you are over analysing it.

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I think you handled it well. As he gets older he will pick up natural boundaries re what is or isn't appropriate to discuss with your Mum, but sometimes they will need it pointed out a bit. I think your attitude that sex is something that can be referred to freely and easily is absolutely right.

The thing is there is no partner here, just me and my two DS's and I want us all to have a close relationship.

However since DS1 is the oldest person in the house other than me I sometimes worry that I treat him too grown up...I sometimes find myself having conversations with him that I realise are probably too old for him.

Imagine if he went to school and said "oh, me and mum were discussing who we'd rather sleep with out of friends last night..." pmsl

I enjoy our conversations, I just wondered what others thought as its hard to judge when you're in the middle iyswim?

Mrs Snape, yo uhandled it perfectly.

(Who would you rather sleep with, btw)

Joey, of course! pmsl

Either answer, or say you don't want to say.

But don't discuss sex with him, and then not allow him to ask you questions. It's confusing.

So you either say:

a) I'm not telling you that! (In a jokey way) or;
b) Chandler

Yep, I would have just said:

"Chandler, of course! Joey makes me laugh too much and I wouldn't be able to sleep....Oh but Chandler makes me laugh too much too"....

Simple, eh??!

I've a 9-year-old son and he sometimes watches friends with me. Haven't had that conversation as yet though. Hope I handle it as well as you if we do though!

(Another vote for Joey here...)