Anyone else feel totally alone

[Jenwilks82]

Not sure where to start really, guess I just want to know im not the only one.
Im recently a single mum having gone through domestic violence.
I have no friends or family and no support system at all. Im facing christmas alone just me and my youngest child as eldest is at her dad's.
I feel sad, lonely and isolated and just a bit unsure of where I go from here or how to even start to rebuild life in whatever way thats going to look now 😪

Yes, many times. You've taken an incredibly brave step and it will take time to heal. Are there reasons why you're not in contact with family/friends? Asking as I know it's common for people who have experienced DV to become very isolated. Is there a possibility to reach out if that's the case?

Building a new life and support network will take time but it will come. You put one foot in front of the other and slowly make very small changes. There may be groups you can consider joining in the NY. Have you done the freedom programme? Do you work?

For now keep reaching out over Christmas, and focus on the fun things you can do with your younger child. Can be as simple as watching fun Christmas film together. How old are they?

loneliness is better than abuse.

ps you could consider getting this moved to the relationships board as there are many people there who can provide support and advice too

Christmas / New Year can be a terribly lonely time . There is an expectation that everyone is having a lovely time getting ready to welcome guests to your home or to be the guests at someone else's little parties .
For many of us that is just not true .
I know you are a child down , but start your own little family traditions . Maybe do the Christmas themed pjs , or a walk around your area to see the decorations .
It won't shake off that feeling that you are somehow missing out , but filling up the days will help them pass .

You won’t be alone
you will be with your child

I am a singke parent and I won’t be alone on Christmas because I will be with my favourite two people on the planet, my children.

How old is your child?

it is tough but you can do it op, and make it really special

Thank you all for your comments, I will absolutely pull myself together and make christmas just as special as it always has been. Its all new and raw but I know we will be ok, one day at a time. Xx

I very much doubt they look back fondly on past Christmases given your husband was a cruel domestic abuser.

So I suspect this Christmas will be exponentially better for them just by virtue of the fact that their parents are not together.

it is sad though that the siblings are being split up over Christmas

Unfortunately thats part and parcel of having shared custody with one childs father, christmas days alternate each year. X

Not necessarily.

My ex and I alternate Christmases. Would never split siblings.

Mine have different dads. Youre entitled to your opinion, everyone has different ways of working things I guess. I dont understand your negativity towards me honestly but I dont judge, you never know what others are going through.

Different dads?? I didn’t realise. Ok so yes I totally appreciate split now

My point is that past Christmases were likely pretty rotten for your children.

Now you can make it truly special and tension / abuse free

Yes,I would never split them otherwise as it is heartbreaking. X

Is one dad more reasonable than the other? So then you could coordinate that your Xmas with the children is with them both one year and then neither the next?