Fat comment

[Lily27]

My DS, 9yo just called DP fat in front of his school friend. He teases him about being fat. For sure DP is a quite a bit pudgy. But he was offended at this teasing in front of another child. What do you think? I will tell DS not to do that any more. But is my DP overreacting.? Do kids remark on their parents this way in front of others?

Agreed in this context banter is all of the above, this is what he did to test the boundaries. Mum is now going to deal with this.

Dealing with it very soon, as in tonight…
hopefully it won’t happen again
he will understand

Update: I talked to him about what he said and he was tearful and contrite. He apologized to his dad. He agreed to not do this again. I’m optimistic, let’s see. Thanks for all responses

At 9yo he should know better and I’d be very unimpressed. There would be consequences. Words hurt and he deliberately hurt his dad’s feelings to impress his mates. Squash it now!

Kids do mess up and make hurtful remarks sometimes, it doesn’t mean he’s a nasty kid or a bully. As long as it’s met with a firm response, and he sees the mistake and is sorry, that would be the end of the matter for me (and DH, if he were the target of the comment).

Seen your update and that sounds really positive. They push boundaries but it’s really important to set those boundaries now as at 14 it’s a lot harder and the “chill” parents have rude dc they can’t control (my youngest are 14 yo girls and the difference is pretty shocking but the parents who were mates with dc at primary are struggling now).

Fully agree with you. Need to be much more vigilant about these things at this stage. He was so contrite, that was reassuring.