Just shouted feel awful

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I only shouted 4yo DS name and it was out of shock

He has a toy sword and he hit the tip of it on my spine bone and it hurt so bad so I shouted his name instantly regret it he cried I apologised and explained it was because it hurt my voice went loud

Hes fine now but I just am wracked with guilt :(

Hopefully he’s learnt not to skelp people in the spine with swords.

Hopefully hes learnt a lesson

Not sure I see the issue here tbh. He hit you with a toy sword, you shouted, what’s the problem? If someone whacked me in the back with a toy sword I would be shouting too. I’m
sure he’ll recover.

Well done on getting to age 4 before shouting.

you will do it again.

no need for guilt.

He deserved it from the sound of things. Sounds like you need to do a bit more shouting tbh. Gentle parenting is useless.

He should be apologising to you.

Agree. I’m worried about all these little boys being brought up to think if someone (particularly a woman) retaliates to being hit (even vocally), they ‘deserve an apology’. Madness.

Come on, OP, all parents shout - it's completely normal. We all survived being shouted at now and again. And if it helps your child understand how to behave (which it will), then it's a very good thing you did.

Gosh OP. I shouted at my 4 year old this morning because we were running late for school. And it was absolutely my fault we were late! She’s survived the experience just fine. I’m sure your DS will too.

Don't be daft...

A yell in pain? I also don’t see the issue. I don’t like yelling at children in a sort of “I’m going to stand over you and berate you for ages at the top of my voice” way.
But I would expect an adult to yell my name or “stop!” etc if I hurt them. And I’d do the same to an adult or child.

Don't be so silly!

Children need to understand that their mother is human, otherwise how would they ever learn empathy?

Jesus wept. Racked with guilt? Seriously? Sounds like he needed a good shouting at if he thinks it's ok to hit you

Yeah it grosses me out. Dancing around these kids and apologising to them. Makes me cringe.

Ok thanks for the reassurance that im not awful. I do have a stern voice I just dont like shouting and I dont do it hence why he got a fright and cried

Hes just playing so rough atm I normally just remind him to be gentle or I stop his game and say that was too much etc but it just hurt so much wow!