3 kids?

[TreaclePlum]

Sorry duplicate post on the right topic now...

Anyway. 3 kids. Tell me all about it.

I have x2 children - eldest (F)about to turn 5, youngest (M) just turned 2.

I'm all consumed by the need for a 3rd. Think about it constantly. My head is no for everything but I can't shake the desire for another baby.

So people who have 3. Tell me about how its worked for you. Honestly please!

What car did you buy?
Did your partner have to basically have the other two in the newborn months?
Did it financially cripple you?
Is solo bedtime at all possible?
How old were you when you had third?
Do you have a life at all outside of mumming.

My husband and I are on the same page in that we both kinda do but realistically think...we would be mad!

I'm 36, husband 42. We'd time it for after youngest started school nursery.

Talk to me ladies.

What car did you buy?
Seat Tarraco 7-seater.

Did your partner have to basically have the other two in the newborn months?
My mum flew here (we live abroad) for the first month to help. I had an easy birth, so was able to take of all 3 from about 4 weeks.

Did it financially cripple you?
No, but I have had to go back to work full-time (teacher). We are comfortable and upgraded to our 3-bed house when I was pregnant with #3.

Is solo bedtime at all possible?
Yes, but the first 6 months was really hard. DH was home every night. I’m not sure how I would have managed alone. Now it’s fine, we’ll each do a solo bedtime once a week.

How old were you when you had third?
36.

Do you have a life at all outside of mumming.
Kind of. I get 2 hours to myself each day, once the DC are all in bed. I still play in a band occasionally. I workout most days.
However, not having family around is tough. We are actually moving home after 15 years abroad, as we have found 3 too tough on our own, and my parents are desperate to have the DGC closer.

I absolutely love having 3, but I do think that your DH has to be 100% on board. My DH is amazing.

I have an 8 year old and 5 year old, just had a baby a week ago. I’m 35, partner is 43.

If I was in your position, I would probably do it now rather than wait. It’s been a shock to the system because I didn’t realise how independent the older kids were. I wish I’d done it sooner so that I’d got the baby/young ish phase out of the way all in one go.

we stuck with the same cars (Audi something & a Tiguan, as we can fit all in). Eldest no longer needs booster seat which saves space though.

partner is having to look after the eldest 2 atm and put them to bed together every night. I’ve started being able to help with them in the daytime again but I do feel guilty that I’m sat here feeding all the time and giving them less attention.

can’t speak for financially crippled yet, but I expect so as she gets older.

What car did you buy? Zafira
Did your partner have to basically have the other two in the newborn months? No
Did it financially cripple you? No
Is solo bedtime at all possible? Yes
How old were you when you had third? 37
Do you have a life at all outside of mumming. Yes.