Money worries,work and being a mum.

[drainingk]

Could really use someone to talk to.
Im really struggling at the minute, im so low and drained and worried about money and raising 3 kids is so hard, my realtionship is breaking down, and then i work in hospitality on top of that. I just want to cry everyday. I dont know what to do today before school i really lost it with all kids and swore and everything now i have to go to work and i feel like the worst human and mum in the world. All while my partner just stood and watched me break down i felt like i am having a mental break down. What can i do

Firstly, we all have times where we lose our shit. There’s a difference between swearing at your children routinely and the odd occasion where you get tipped over the edge. Try not to beat yourself up. Look at what it was that made you explode, and how you were feeling in the run up to it, and try to use that in future to take a step back when it’s building up.

Secondly, listen to yourself. Things are unmanageable but if you keep pushing your feelings down and pressing through, you’ll end up exploding (like today). What changes can you make? Would a different job make things easier? Can you work on your relationship, or is it time to call it a day? How old are the kids? Could they do more to help? Having three is hard work, and I know I’d regularly feel overwhelmed when I tried to ignore the stresses.

It does get better but as the saying goes “If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got”. If you want things to get easier you have to make changes.