My 10 year old son wants to live with his dad

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Myself and my husband (ex) have separated six months now, it hasnt been pleasant at all. He was unfaithful and abusive. My oldest son doesnt want to live with me and blames me for everything. I am distraught. Has anyone been through this before? My youngest is with me. I miss my oldest son so much and im devastated that he is pushing me away. I love him so much but he worships his father. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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Oh I'm sorry this must be so difficult. I have no advice but I'm wondering if your son knows the real reasons behind the divorce/separation?

It hasnt been amicable at all, I had to get a restraining order. But yes my son has found out his dad was unfaithful and said his dad has made a mistake. His dad has told him things I have said such as ringing the police and calling him a monster etc. I see my son but he wont stay over regularly or come home. His sibling misses him terribly too. Its just such a terrible situation. I had a male friend at my house and my ex told my son I have a boyfriend. My son is so full of anger towards me and tried to punch me. I know je is acting out because he is lost and confused I just fear where this will end.

How often does he come to yours to stay? Really at age 10 it should be his decision where he stays, but it sounds like you need to repair the relationship between you and his trust.

I'm so immensely sorry you're going through this & I'm praying your Beloved eldest Son soon sees the light & wishes to be with you his Beloved Mum again 💚💑💚
As your ex was abusive I wouldn't be even slightly surprised to discover he's probably been swaying & negatively influencing Your Beloved Son against His Mum, sincere soul - I'm oftentimes reminded of how distressingly rife Parental Alienation is
I'm praying you have the opportunity soon, to have an honest open conversation with Your Dear Son
My own father tried to turn me against my Beloved Mum - Tried to convince me of untrue things about Her, when I was younger - So I'm also speaking from my own personal experiences
I remember only too well, how convincing his lies were, back then
But nothing, as I grew up, he could ever imply, no matter how subtle, would ever even slightly convince me again
I'm praying this will be the same for Your Dear Son, sooner than you may anticipate
Your patience & faith, remembering to Let Time Take Time, as truths come to light, will help this process
Remember never give up
Keep the faith Brilliant Mum💚💑💚