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Coercive control

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Roundandroundagainandaga · 03/12/2025 18:06

My ex daughters dad been separated 6 months, before that we were so up and down arguements constant. I ended it.

hes been not very nice.
demanded money for a room to rent. Tried to force my family to give him money.
got his room.
i took him to mediation who in my opinion weren’t very good.
we agreed 2 days a week he can see her on a day off and a weekend.
he’s not consistent.
if he’s sick he says about her not going if he’s had a bad sleep he asks me to drop her later.
he never has money.
he begs me for it.
he’s sent me 30/40 messages when he wants it stressed me out so much.
shes come home smelling of weed before I addressed it he stopped
he doesnt pay anything for her
I provided nappies etc when she’s there.
he now has decided he’s realised we’re not getting back together im not quite sure how he thought we would
but now he wants her the 2 days one night then he wants 2 nights, then 3 nights he’s being very “reasonable” in the way he is putting it across “clever” In my thoughts
but he is saying all that he wants not really asking why I want.
he said we have to share 50/50
he’s saying why would I stop her (which I haven’t how can’t see ive been doing everything to help her see him)
I’ve said about routine needs to be kept pretty. Much the same like shes 18 months old…. If he puts her to bed with the telly on and I don’t she’ll play up for me. If he never gives her a vegetable she’ll think she doesn’t need to have them ….
shes co slept with me her whole time …
he’s never done night time ….

i just don’t want him to control this but I also don’t want to be accused of keeping his daughter from him

OP posts:
Midgetgemsplease · 03/12/2025 22:11

may I suggest you move this to legal advice but tbh this is confusing and there's lots of pertinent information missing.

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