Controlling MIL being unfair to my kids

[Kiki234]

I have known MIL for 10 years and have always given her the benefit of the doubt. We live close by and I have tried my best to be supportive in trying to maintain a cohesive family.

MIL is the type of person who cannot take any accountability over her behaviour. This trait has been shared to her 10 yo son. For example, he outright hit my 2yo and MIL called my son sensitive for crying and did not speak to her child about the behaviour. There have been instances where my 2yo has been reprimanded by her but not her 10yo.

I am struggling to manage this as being controlling with me is one thing but now I feel it is affecting my children. I also always leave my MIL feeling bad as I remember past incidents where she was very abusive.her behaviour has overall improved with boundaries being set but I just find her so incredibly draining to be around.

I just need a rant and for someone to advise me on how to manage this.

If you genuinely think they would throw a brick through your window, which of course could cause serious injury to your child, then I would say you need to move far away from them. They are thugs and your DH needs to come to terms with that.

Before I read that I was going to suggest, if you don’t want to go nc then perhaps taking your child home immediately whenever her son hurts him. Maybe she would get the message and realise if she wants to see her grandson she has to take comfort of her son. But if they are the kind of scum that would throw a brick through a window why would you and your husband have anything to do with them