how do I tell my parents in law we don't want to go on holiday with them?

[BigBlueHat]

How do I tactfully say - "you're domineering, bossy and too parent-like and so I don't want to go for a weeks holiday in France with you" without upsetting anyone?

tell them that you are very gratefull of teh ofer but you were looking to go away with just you your H and the kids.

Do you have to say what needs to be said - ie Can't your dh do this?

Yes he could and thats probably what will happen. I'm just worrying about it as I feel powerless and feear being sucked in to a holiday that would be endured rather than enjoyed. So was looking for any good suggestions!

its just that i always find that, if I tell my ils something that they won't like, its always either ignored or not taken well. On the other hand, if dh tells them its better accepted.
sorry i can't be more helpful, but I feel your pain

thanks flier. When I'm an in law I'm going to not assume that everyone wants to come on hol with me!

What Mamazon said - have been on holiday twice with mil and both me and dh have said we won't do it again

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