Anxious of developmental delays

[CaffeinatedLondoner]

Hi there,
I'm a FTM with a 9mo who just had her HV review. The HV remarked on a couple of things – that DD is not crawling, not touching her feet, she doesn't reach for herself in the mirror. I'd been mildly concerned about this as our NCT group babies were all born within weeks of each other, and DD is second oldest, but isn't crawling or attempting to move around like the rest of them.
She also sways/flaps her hands a lot, which – of course – I'm now anxious is stimming from ASD. She also dislikes being held and arches her back to get away.
Her nursery have also commented that she really needs to get moving at this age.
I know all babies develop at their own pace, and we have another review scheduled for January, but I'm suddenly going out of my mind with worry and that next appt feels SO far away.
Any advice very welcome. I should clarify that of course I'm prepared for any eventuality, it's just the not knowing that's causing the upset.

Hi,
I'm not a medical professional, just a mum, however I found this article which may help put your mind at rest. Arching and flapping are both mentioned on it.
https://earlyimpactlearning.com/baby-stimming-at-nine-months-explained/

Do get a second opinion so you are not anxiously waiting for your next appointment. Don't be afraid to be 'pushy' either to get any medical advice sooner or any tests that you would like.

Thank you so much for your reply. That's really encouraging, especially re: not fearing being labelled as 'pushy'. As a FTM I'm so conscious of being judged as hysterial/naïve. Doesn't help that when DD had croup I was fobbed off with 'first child?' by the GP reception then ended up getting taken to hospital by ambulance that evening. The gas-lighting is real!

Hi OP
i am a health visitor. Please be reassured that babies do flap their hands and arch a lot! She is far, far too young for any diagnosis of anything and your HV just has to mention it to you but we do see this all the time.
Just play with her lots and keep on with things like tummy time.
They really all do things at different times and the HV review is just a precaution. Even if they thought more support was needed they would be doing referrals to help her development.
I hope this reassures you that this is very common.

Honestly I was a terrible worrier over developmental milestones for both of my boys. The only thing you can do, is wait, try not to worry, remain vigilant for any actual delays, listen to the professionals and try not to compare!
You’ll hopefully start relaxing when you see for yourself that babies and children really do do things in their own time. Xxx