Nearly 4 year old hitting me

[Mummyboy1]

Hello, I need a few ideas/ help for a couple of issues. My son is 4 next month, seems to be roughly at age expectant development however does have a speech delay.
The last few months, when he's upset/ cross with me or about something, he'll hit me. It's now happening everyday and I just don't know what to do.
He also occasionally pushes his baby sister over and I'm trying to work out what the right consequence to the action is. He did it this evening, so I gave her lots of attention, said that it wasn't kind and he couldn't watch tv tonight...but I don't know if that consequence is right/ linked to what he did?

Personally, I would take one episode at a time. When you see him do it again, you could take what he's playing with off him for awhile and tell him it's not ok to hit. Ignore the tantrum (the hard part), stay busy and carry on. And don't get involved in debate/conversation once you have told him what's happening and why. I did the super nanny thing but I regret it really, him running out of time out a million times drove me mad. Putting something up high for the eve works wonders I found!

Ya, for the speech delay, he might need help expressing himself

I think that speech delay must be very frustrating for a child, so they hit out physically.

You're doing the right thing by simply telling him that to hit is wrong because he needs to know.

However, the minute it's dealt with, move on and don't prolong the words.

Does he attend nursery? Does it happen there?

@TeaBiscuitsNaptime thanks, a good tip there about the toys at the time, that could be an easy to understand consequence. Unfortunately due the speech delay, he hasn't got the words to try and argue/ discuss or ask why. When I say I understand he might be upset/ cross with me but we don't hit, he seems to get more upset/ cross!

@Georgiepud yes, the speech delay is definitely not helping. I do say after he has hit me, that i understand he might be cross/ upset with me, but we don't hit. Usually seems to make him worse and he tries again. I keep my worse straight to the point, limit what I'm saying so I know he understands what I'm saying. I have ordered the hands are not for hitting book, so I'm hopeful if I read that everyday it'll help.
It's just hard as I need to find a way he can express what has made him upset (if I've told him off then I know obviously).
It's hard because he understand my part of the conversation, if i say we can't do something, but he hasn't got the words to talk back, so we can have a full 2 way conversation.

He currently goes to nursery 3 days week, he doesn't hit there. One of his targets is to work on communication/ recognising emotions. Will try and talk to them again for some help .