13 month old, does it get easier?

[kateypops]

I've spent so many nights this past month just crying. My baby boy is wonderful and is turning 14 months the end of this month but I just feel like I'm failing him and I've just been surviving this whole month with him and not engaging with him as much as I should. I work 9-5 tuesday to friday (and I hate to say it but this feels like a break) while my partner works 6pm-3am Friday,2PM-3am Saturday, 2PM-1am sunday and then 6pm-1am monday and tuesday. So it's always myself putting our son to sleep and waking up during the night with him (even thou he is a fantastic sleeper, he just needs a quick resettle once a night or if hes teething more often)

I guess I just wanna know does it get easier? I'm so tired and feel so bad for being tired and just want something to change. Maybe if my partner dropped hes sunday shift. I dont know. How long before it gets easier?

also currently pregnant with our second, 11 weeks in so maybe I'm exhausted because of that but I dont want to put it down to that.

I think it gets easier because you get more experienced and hardened as a parent so you don't find it as stressful.

They do get easier as well as they become more independent. Obviously you've got another one coming and 2 under 2 is hard but its temporary. Everything is easier with the 2nd in my opinion because you've got one already and you know that any difficulties won't last forever.

11 weeks pregnant with a toddler is so so hard. You will feel better in a few weeks.

I've got a 3 year old and 1 year old and currently pregnant with the third and I'm a happier and more capable parent now than when I had 1.

He only wakes once a night, you haven't really described what he's doing that's so hard or so tiring?? They're pretty easy at this age, walking, more capable of some independent play etc.

You decided to have another baby so you weren't finding it hard a few months ago when you conceived your second, what has changed exactly?

Can't help if you don't tell us what's wrong really.

pregnancy is extremely tiring, it’s so hard being pregnant with a toddler. you’re basically doing an extra manual labor job at the same time as everything else you are doing,

Sorry, I'm wrecked as it seems to be 24/7 entertaining him and I'm wrecked. When we tried for a second I wasn't back to work so things were easier but now we dont have any family days together so I feel really bad for our son cause he doesnt seem to be getting the best of either of us and either hes with dad or me but never us both together so we get 2 hours of us time each a week

Pregnancy with a toddler is violent to be honest. Much worse than having 2, allow yourself to be tired and don’t beat yourself up about it. Book a midweek day of leave and have a rest while DS is with the childcare or your DP.

@kateypops why do you not have days together? Can one of you look at changing jobs or schedules so you have at least a day where both parents are at home. Or hire in some help? We hired someone part time to help with cleaning and looking after my son when I was on mat leave as my DH was away a lot and we have no family at all.

1 year olds are exhausting if you're alone with them 24/7.