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What are my rights?

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ABC123! · 22/11/2025 02:20

Having continuous issue with the father of my child. He is not providing a safe place for her at his house. He has introduced her to two women’s in 8 months, both which were questionable. The second and latest one being a known drug user. He doesn’t see any issue with having our 14 month child around these people , and when questioned about it will lie. He is inconsistent, unreliable, doesn’t pay financially towards our child. I don’t want to stop contact however he does need to realise what’s expected of him as a parent. He only sees our child twice in one week. I have a list of concerns I could report but never wanted to I am scared of SS involvement. Even though I do nothing but raise provide for our daughter basically alone. What are my options here? I have been advised to look into a court order. I want him to see his child however he needs to stop having her around these risky people.

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Fends · 22/11/2025 02:24

You’re sending your 1 year old to spend time with druggies and her dad pays nothing, plus there is no court ordered reason to do this? Why?

ABC123! · 22/11/2025 02:28

It’s not as simple to stop him. He turns up and threatens me. Until yesterday this has become serious. Only yesterday I found out about this second girl. I phoned the police to do a welfare check. The girl left his house where my child was, and when the police did attend hr was arrested for drink driving. So I went to collect my daughter. However tomorrow he usually sees he, and he is going to try and come to my house as I have blocked his number. It’s very intimidating on your own.

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ACR7 · 22/11/2025 07:19

Based on your last update there is nothing he could threaten me with that would make me hand over my baby to him. Don’t answer the door and call the police if he becomes aggressive.

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INeedAnotherName · 22/11/2025 07:44

Get a ring doorbell so you don't have to open the door, and keep all recordings where he shows aggression or threats. Start calling the police if he refuses to leave.

But mainly - stop sending your child. If he really wants to see her then he can go to court. The court will decide on which days/hours he can have access and if you start keeping records of his aggression you can request supervised access or even a contact centre. Even better they can make him pay financially. But you MUST start collecting proof.

Start protecting your child and stop forcing her to go with a violent man.

ResusciAnnie · 22/11/2025 07:51

ABC123! · 22/11/2025 02:28

It’s not as simple to stop him. He turns up and threatens me. Until yesterday this has become serious. Only yesterday I found out about this second girl. I phoned the police to do a welfare check. The girl left his house where my child was, and when the police did attend hr was arrested for drink driving. So I went to collect my daughter. However tomorrow he usually sees he, and he is going to try and come to my house as I have blocked his number. It’s very intimidating on your own.

I would be out and uncontactable tomorrow for a start.

Don’t send your kid off with someone who is threatening toward you.

Move and don’t tell him where you’ve gone?

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