Anyone else’s partner’s the same?

[Bananas123456]

my baby is 9 weeks old now and my partner is supportive but don’t really help me with her.. when she’s crying he dosent know what to do with her, he rarely changes nappies, he don’t do night feeds or any feeds in general. He’s at work Monday - Sunday with alternative weekends off and I’m currently you on mat leave with her so I am with her all the time. Is anyone else experiencing the same with there partners?

No, and if I did, I certainly wouldn't have more than one child with the lazy shite.

Why isn't he interested in learning how to look after his baby?

Did he want one in the first place?

Not that it matters really as it's here now.

If you're bottle feeding I'd leave him to it next weekend he's off.

MN is chock full of women who have had babies with useless men. You are not alone. Just make sure you stop at one child, go back to work and don’t become financially dependent on him.

Surely his uselessness showed before you had kids?

So.many.women deal with this all the time! It astounded me when my babies were young how many people just accepted this as the normal status quo and got on with it. My DH in all honesty probably could have been similar but I didn't let him. We were about a week in when he tried to hand the baby to me as he didn't know what he was doing but I said we'd been parents the same number of hours so he could work it out as well as I could. I was miffed tbh that I spent the first year coaching him and encouraging t something that society expected me to just magically know and get on with, but that felt preferable to accepting that it was just all on me. Yes it's harder when you're on mat leave and he goes back to work as you will naturally spend more time with the baby and learn more cues etc but when he's not at work parenting should be 50:50. They need a chance to bond and learn too and sometimes that involves feeling out of your depth whilst you work it out. Mums do it, so dad's can too.

How horrible, I'm sorry OP. Do you have any other help? I hired a nanny for a few hours a day, 3 days a week, when mine was little, as I had no help and no family and i needed some respite. Best decision I ever made.