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Worried about toddlers development

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K37529 · 16/11/2025 17:24

My daughter is 28 months, would this be cause of concern or just normal toddler behaviour? I have already spoken to her health visitor a few months ago and she said she will assess again when she is 3. She won’t interact with anyone except me and sometimes her older brother and dad, she usually just cries if others try to engage with her/talk to her. She won’t play with other children and has absolutely no interest in them (she will sometimes chase her brother, but completely ignores her sister and other close family members/other children). She has pretty good vocabulary, but can’t answer simple questions, if I point to something and say for example what’s that? She will just repeat what I have said. She also doesn’t ask questions. She has been extremely clingy to me over the past few months, she always was but now I can’t even leave the room without her following crying, if I leave her at home with her dad she will cry till I come back, he can settle her for short periods but she will go back to crying. She was in a crèche for 2 hours a day 2 days a week but she wouldn’t settle, I would have to collect her early every day so after six weeks of trying the staff have told me to try her again next year. I’m sahm anyways so it’s not an issue, I sent her because I was worried about her social skills but obviously it didn’t help.

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Seelybe · 16/11/2025 17:36

@K37529 very hard to say at this age, there's such a variation in development. But I think your HV should review her sooner than leaving it a year, sounds a bit of a fob off.
Dd obviously has quite extreme separation anxiety. Maybe you could try leaving her with her dad regularly for the short period she's OK, then add 5 minutes and keep doing that till she doesn’t cry and then add another 5 mins. Once it clicks that you'll be back soon she might be fine. And getting older so understanding and communication will increase.
I had a very clingy one too. She did grow out of it!

ProfessorRizz · 16/11/2025 17:49

Repeating what you’ve said is echolalia, common in ASD. You might want to write a list of these concerns and see your GP/HV.

K37529 · 16/11/2025 17:59

Seelybe · 16/11/2025 17:36

@K37529 very hard to say at this age, there's such a variation in development. But I think your HV should review her sooner than leaving it a year, sounds a bit of a fob off.
Dd obviously has quite extreme separation anxiety. Maybe you could try leaving her with her dad regularly for the short period she's OK, then add 5 minutes and keep doing that till she doesn’t cry and then add another 5 mins. Once it clicks that you'll be back soon she might be fine. And getting older so understanding and communication will increase.
I had a very clingy one too. She did grow out of it!

Really hoping she grows out of it soon. It’s hard for everyone I could really use a break, and her dad thinks she doesn’t like him 🙈

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ohpoowhatnow · 16/11/2025 18:02

I would be thinking possible asd but it’s hard because there’s such a variation that age

Devilsmommy · 16/11/2025 18:05

I thought of echolalia and with the lack of interest in other people I'd definitely be reading up on ASD so you can explain to HV or gp exactly why you're worried

K37529 · 16/11/2025 18:06

ProfessorRizz · 16/11/2025 17:49

Repeating what you’ve said is echolalia, common in ASD. You might want to write a list of these concerns and see your GP/HV.

Her older brother is waiting for an asd assessment and repeating phrases was one of our concerns about him (he still does this and he’s almost 5) but the health visitor said it is only a concern passed the age of 3. She didn’t seem at all concerned about my daughter. I think I may speak to her GP instead.

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