When does broodiness go away?

[xTinkerbell]

Recently had my 4th baby, oldest will be 6 soon. I’m realistically done and I’ve always wanted 4 kids. I know 4 is the perfect number for us. We can afford to give them a good life, holidays, clubs etc, space for them all to have their own rooms, a car we can fit them all in etc, I work 2 days per week & can ensure plenty one to one time with each of them.

When #4 was born I felt so complete but slowly that thought of I could have just one more is creeping in.

I know that’s not realistic but it’s turning into a physical ache that I need to stop.

Has anyone experienced this? when does it go away?

I don't think it does, you just get better at ignoring it.

I have 2. I would have liked more, but 2 was where I could do all the things you mention (and I grew up one of 4 - I'm very familiar with the pros and cons of larger families)

I still get the twinge - but then my sensible head kicks in and reminds me that I'd spent a lot of time reasoning about why 2 was the right number for me, that there's lots of things you can't do with a baby on hand, that I'm getting a bit old for all of that anyway etc. and the itch doesn't go away, but I kind of beat it into submission through logic.

4 kids 5 and under and you want more : 0 I'm finding two a handful.

While you can give them the material things, can you really be mentally and emotionally there for +4?
And how would you have time to focus on each one as an individual, especially if any develop behavioural or medical issues?

@FernSaidSo The logical part of my brain doesn’t want another one. It’s my heart that does and I’m wanting to know if this feeling goes away with time because I know a 5th isn’t a sensible idea for lots of reasons. I just don’t know how to manage this feeling that I have.

@GiantTeddyIsTired thank you, hoping it gets easier to manage with time.