How do you split childcare with partner?

[Newparent101]

I'm sick of being the one doing 99% of the baby care, so I'm gonna create a schedule to split babycare and household chores a bit more fairly between my partner and |. I'd like your advice about it please!

He's self-employed working 10-15 hours per week, but also has extra admin tasks for being self-employed; I'm on paid maternity leave but plan to find a job in a new sector so need some time for online courses and CV-writing, etc. Currently I do almost all baby care and household chores, and my only free time is when she naps (I study then) & taking an hour at 22:30 after baby and partner have gone to bed (I'm trying to shift baby's sleep pattern earlier but that's another issue).

It's been a battle but today partner agreed to "trial" 2 hours/day where he cares for baby and I can go do something fun - the rest of the time I'll do childcare. Otherwise I'm thinking to propose that I'll cook 5 nights/week, he'll cook 2; I'll do all laundry, house cleaning, baby feeding & bottle prep (we're combi feeding); we'll both load dishwasher; he'll unload dishwasher & takes bins out. While I make dinner he'll pick up baby if she cries.

What do you think? Does anyone have any advice about how to split / any advice about how to negotiate this with partner?

Also forgot to mention that we are totally financially separate, but we split all baby/ grocery/ apartment costs 50:50. But I do get maternity leave and pay "thanks" to him - we have a total 14 months that can be claimed by either partner, and he's letting me have 12 months and keep all the maternity pay for that time, while he only takes 2 months

He's self-employed working 10-15 hours per week, but also has extra admin tasks for being self-employed

What's he doing when he's not working?

A trial at looking after his own child?! He sounds completely useless. And this isn’t your job to ‘manage’ or you’ll end up telling him what to do when he just needs to get on with it.

But I’d look at the whole week the other way around. It’s about having equal downtime. If you’ve got 10 hours a week ‘off’ but he’s got 30 then your starting point is 20 each and it’s about how you work together to achieve that.