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Don,t understand why my ds is suddenly getting into trouble at school

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ifeelsleepy · 07/06/2008 20:22

Hi
My ds seems to have been in nothing but trouble these last 2 weeks at school.
It started just before the holidays when his teacher called me and said he had been pushing reception children around and had also wrote on a table to get someone into trouble.
My ds is 7 in yr 2.

Then all of this week he has not wanted to go to school, and sat in the car friday morning refusing to get out until I eventually managed to coax him.

I hadn't managed to get much information out of him as to why he was so upset, except that he had been missing playtime all week due to fighting.
I asked to have a word with his teacher after school on friday and told her he hasn,t been wanting to come to school and I am not sure what has been going on.
She said she wasn,t surprised and he had been in alot of trouble, to which I then asked what he had been doing.
She said he had got into a fight with another child at dinner time and the dinner lady who supervises them at dinner was doing her nut.
Also said he was seen to break a pencil deliberately and then hold it up and say look its broke.
His teacher said the worst thing is that he is continually lying about everything and denying everything.
She said he had been missing his playtime this week for been naughty on the friday before they broke up.
I did ask her do you think this is all of my ds's fault or could there be blame on other sides as well, is it all just my ds, to which she replied your probably not going to like this but I think its mostly him.
She said I need to sort him out before he starts juniors or else they are always going to be speaking to me.
My ds hasn't always been in trouble like this. In the 3 years he has been at this school this is about the 3rd time I have been given concern for his behaviour although they were quite minor things.
I mentioned this fact to his teacher and she did say that even though he has had his moments it does seem to be more in the last couple of weeks or so.
I really feel awaful especially about the comment that she thinks its mostly him.
I know he can be an awkward littel devila nd that he is no angel but this has unsettled me.

OP posts:
cornsilk · 07/06/2008 20:24

Is he feeling unwell or tired at the moment?

ifeelsleepy · 07/06/2008 20:29

He probably is a bit tired its around 9.00pm before he is in bed asleep.

OP posts:
cornsilk · 07/06/2008 20:34

Could anything be upsetting him at school? Can you speak to the head about your concerns?

cory · 07/06/2008 21:40

Is he worried about going up to junior school? Or anything else that worries him at school?

Bullying reception children is quite a bad sign so I can see why his teacher is concerned.

On the other hand, the only way you can "sort him out" is to find out what is worrying him and trying to help him through it. I don't believe in punishing at home for things that happened at school, but you might be able to do something in a more positive way.

Alfreda · 07/06/2008 22:10

If this has been a recent occurrence then he has become disturbed for some reason, and the teacher should be trying harder to find out why, and so perhaps should you.Kids sometimes act out so that they will be kept away from a situation that scares them.
Might be worth asking him if anyone has threatened him or has hurt him.

bigTillyMint · 08/06/2008 06:54

My son got into more trouble when he became involved in a certain friendhip group. Plus he really didn't like his teacher - boring and not on little boys wave-length.

Kids often are more tired in the summer term because it's too light / hot to sleep, so that may be part of it too, but I agree that you need to find out what he thinks is going on

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