16 month old sleep advice

[Nellym25]

Looking for some advice for my 16 month old - I’ve been justifying the last 3 months of terrible sleeping with learning to walk / developmental / teething but I can’t see any improvements and I’m exhausted.

shes up 3 times a night - sometimes more. Will only settle with a bottle but sometimes that won’t work. She can be up hours, and not in the cute chatty way when you can tell it’s developmental. Sometimes she’s upset so I think she’s tired but I just can’t settle her.

Any help and advice would be appreciated, I have a 3 year old too who is generally ok but if she needs me too then the night are so long.

Thank you xx

Can you share your normal schedule?

@OtterMummy2024sure 🙂 shes usually up 6am-6.30am and I aim for a 12-2 nap which tbh she rarely sleeps past 1.5hrs.

@OtterMummy2024we start the bedtime routine 6.15-6.30 which is bath bottle and aim to be in bed for 7pm

My baby's sleep went downhill around 13 months so we started cosleeping. I put him to bed as normal and when he wakes I get into bed with him.

@BoyMummummumdo you have a toddler bed for him or get him in with you? I’ve tried putting her in my bed but she thinks it’s party time and just gets excited 🤦‍♀️

There's a double bed in his room already (his room used to be the guest room), and I bought one of those tall 3 part bedrails (U shaped) that essentially turn the bed into an enormous cot. So I don't take him from his room, just take him from his crib and lay him down on the bed and I get in there with him.

He was a good sleeper between 10 and 12 months, we really thought we had cracked it. Not sure what happened but this is the only way we can sleep. He was up more than when he was a newborn.

Had never had to co-sleep before either.

So mine's only 18 months, but I just do a cup of milk before bed and no milk in the night. Do you think your LO is genuinely hungry/thirsty, or is it just habit?

I think we have the same schedule so probably the right amount of sleep (though you could try putting bedtime back 15 minutes for a few days and see if that helps). Mine had split nights and difficult bedtimes at 13 months with the excitement of being able to walk. I made bedtime later and that helped.

I have also done shush-pat soothing in the night for a long time, calming but boring. But I think these things are very dependent on the baby's personality & we just have a child who gets on well with that.

Ice just stumbled upon this thread partly because my 13 month old, DC3, is a horrendous sleeper. However he always has been apart from between months 2 and 4.

But anyway my DC2 though was similar to yours by the sounds of things and I thought that might give you hope. DC2 slept through between 10 and 12 months too. Started nursery then became an awful sleeper, way worse than before he started sleeping through. However at 16 months started sleeping through again and that was the end of the terrible sleep thankfully! So hopefully it won't be too much longer for you either.

Anyway sorry for the OP I have no advice but lots of empathy and understanding!