Can my husband do anymore?

[Peapod242]

I have a 15 month old who is super clingy. I woke with him at 1am and then at 5am.
He didn't settle after 5am and I brought him into bed with me and my husband. He still did not settle and at 6.15 I asked my husband to 'try' with him. Husband's answer was to tell me to put him back in his crib.
I asked again, same answer.

So at 6.30 I'm p*** off and husband takes baby. I go to the bathroom. Baby cries.

I come back and take the baby back. He still hasn't settled and we're up for the day.

Husband is convinced he was also awake for the 75 minutes. I'm convinced he wasn't what with the being asleep.

I get the baby doesn't settle with him but I've been up for ages at this point.

What more could husband do?? Surely he could support me a little bit more rather than telling me to do more work and put him in the crib where he'd also not settle.

Husband can't see my point of view at all and doesn't understand why I'm annoyed as baby won't settle with him

I had this with mine and, despite my anger at the time, it’s true that they wouldn’t settle with him, so there was no point in us both being awake.
Have you tried giving the little one supper to see if it’s hunger waking him?

You need to figure out a better nighttime routine. No sense both of you being awake if settling isn’t working.

Sleep is the most important thing. It doesn’t matter how you get there. What if you bring him into bed the first time he makes a peep and your dh sleeps on the sofa or in the spare room?

If he’d settle better that way, then you both get more sleep.

If you do night wakes, he gets up with baby from 5ish so you get a chunk of unbroken sleep.

If he says he wakes too, sleep somewhere else or use ear plugs.

We did gradual retreat sleep training about that point as well. Slept through within a week.

Tell him to take baby out to the park for the morning. give you a break.