Hi everyone,
Few year ago I left my partner. Abusive relationship, not physical but verbal and mental. We’ve got two kids together. We were getting on well, doing the co-parenting, he’s moved on as have I but he has started being nasty with the kids. My son in particular can do no right in his eyes. He shouts at him for everything, even things he hasn’t done he tells him off for. Not too great with my daughter either. He seems to resent the kids for some reason. He’s never been a present father but never this bad.
We were at his parent’s house a few weeks ago (I still visit them) and he turned up. he spoke to the kids like they were shit, it was awful. I jumped in and told him he must not speak to them in that manner, I ended up getting a mouthful. His Mum and Dad expressed their disapproval at the way he spoke to the kids and me, he just shook his head and walked out. There has been a couple of instances recently where he has taken them out and shouted at them and they’ve kept quiet when they have been with him but when they’ve came home they have both been really upset. I called him to question why they were upset and he told me to get off the phone and leave him alone. I told him no as I wanted to get to the bottom of what happened. He then went on to tell me I am a bitch, a terrible mother, I’m turning the kids against him, I don’t allow him to see them (absolute rubbish, he did see them every day but now he has a partner he sees them once a week at best)…he was disgusting on the phone. I was shaken, it just took me back to when he would verbally abuse me when we were together.
Anyway back to the kids, it’s at the point where they are refusing to go out with him. They are scared of him. What on earth do I do? He has rights but I need to protect my children. I don’t want him screwing them up the way he has with me.
Everything I have done is to protect my kids, I left him so they weren’t living in a war zone where their mother was verbally abused on a daily basis. I bought us a lovely home. We got a puppy (he wouldn’t allow pets) and our lives improved massively. They love their home, they are happy but then they go to his house and are treated like crap. It’s just not fair at all.
Hope everyone has a lovely evening ❤️