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Struggling and overwhelmed

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belleoz · 06/11/2025 10:35

Hi, I think I’m just looking to see if my feelings and behaviour are normal. I am 37 weeks pregnant, I have a 14 month old and a 3 year old. I’m really finding it hard not to lose my patience with the 3 year old at the moment. His behaviour at times can be very challenging (not listening, hitting me and/or his baby brother, refusing to eat etc). I’m usually very patient with him but I think the pregnancy is making it difficult for me to be rational. I’m so uncomfortable now and just want to have this baby so I can get back to my normal self again. I’m conscious that I’m going to be hormonal/sleep deprived and I worry about how much that’s going to affect my temper. I splashed water over the head of three year old last night as he started throwing water at me - it was a gut reaction to retaliate and I surprised myself. Then overnight my 14 month old woke up and I couldn’t settle him for almost 2 hours - I found myself getting increasingly angry and getting verbally frustrated with him. It scares me when I react to these sort of situations as I feel like I’m out of control. I’m trying to tell myself it’s normal and doesn’t make me a bad mum but it does worry me. I just feel so overstimulated and overwhelmed a lot of the time and am scared that throwing a newborn in the mix is potentialy going to tip me over the edge. I’ve tried speaking to my husband about it this morning and he’s not been particularly helpful. I don’t feel supported by him at the moment, both physically and emotionally, so that doesn’t help. I guess I’m just looking for reassurance that everything is going to be okay. Or do I need to get professional help? Thanks.

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
LoveSandbanks · 06/11/2025 11:24

You’re tired, and uncomfortable and shortly to have 3 under 4s to look after. That is overwhelming. I’m not sure that professional help needs to be looked for as a matter of urgency but only you know how you feel. I’d definitely mention these feelings the next time I saw the midwife.

But for today, can you veg on the sofa with the kids watching tv so you at least get a sit down? Is the 3 year old in nursery at all? Any family support?

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