Am I being dramatic

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My partners brothers got a new girlfriend, we have never met her we don’t know what she’s like although I’ve heard things and I’m already on the side of not wanting to meet her, I have a child who’s 5, she’s a very energetic full on little girl but she is lovely but she’s very playful and grabby and doesn’t understand personal space, am I being dramatic if I don’t want my daughter meeting this new girlfriend until I’ve met her?

I hate drug users but they're literally everywhere. Your child's delayed speech has nothing to do with meeting someone who does coke 😂😂 they've been together 3 days? Yeah I wouldn't worry that she's going to be a problem for long

Yeah idk it’s all just weird to me it’s all weird this relationship but unless you know the entire story behind it it won’t make sense😅🤣

Are you one of those people that fancy their brother and hate any girlfriend they have?

Do you not agree that with children who are delayed and have special needs etc would have a harder time understanding what was happening if something did happen as opposed to a child who was fully aware and had the capacity to understand?

As in, I fancy my own brother or fancy his brother?

And if you don't tell us, it'll make even less sense.

I’ll try keep it short then - his ex left him last December, months and months of crying not eating struggling being depressed, last couple of months seem okay, mentioned being depressed again, started speaking to a girl who his ex doesn’t like and she doesn’t like his ex, that was probs 3 weeks ago they started and now they’re together, I hope that makes sense cos I don’t wanna make it dead long but that’s it really

They both sound like a nightmare

Yeah it’s why I just don’t feel like I want my child to meet her yet because I feel like this is like his way of getting some kind of reaction from his ex?? But also that he was desperate and has just gone for anyone

What does she need to understand? Aren’t you just introducing them?

That's possible of course, but why would they be introducing your DD to her?
There's cheese in my fridge older than this relationship.

So don't go out of your way to introduce her, but if you rock up at the same place, introduce her by her first name and call her Uncle Whatevers friend. You really are overthinking this.

You said you heard she does drugs, do you have any proof of this or could it be people like to gossip and invent things? I’d not be going out of my way to introduce DC to the girlfriend considering the relationship is so new, but I wouldn’t be actively preventing it either

I don't think any child would/should understand what was happening if someone did a line of coke in front of them (unless of course they've been exposed to drug use and are abused and neglected). I don't think your child who has delayed speech needs to be hidden from strangers in case 'something happens'. What do you think she'll do? Get some foil and a lighter out? Do a bump of coke off your kid's toy car? This is such a reach. You're massively underestimating your child if you think they can't handle meeting someone new in this situation. Delayed speech is such a weird weird thing to use as an excuse here? This poor woman has started a relationship with your partner's brother and you think your child isn't safe around her because she has delayed speech. Good grief.

It's really not a big deal and you're overthinking it. You are presumably a) going to be there supervising and b) the suggested location for this meet up isn't a drug fuelled rave in the woods where your kid could lick coke off the floor or accidentally grab a cup of mushroom tea instead of squash.

So you have to spend a few hours in the company of someone you don't really like much. Welcome to extended families!