A brave face in front of your kids when you’re dying inside

[MyHazelFinch]

we have a almost 3 year old daughter and have been trying for another baby for around 15months. We have a house and a mortgage and all our bills together. I thought we were really happy but I’ve just found out my partners been speaking with another woman. He insists nothing sexual has happened but I know if I hadn’t of found out, it would have happened.
I am heartbroken. I can’t stop crying but trying to act normal and be there for my daughter especially as we have to all still be in the same house. How do you carry on life like normal and keep everything happy for your children when your heart is breaking. He has taken everything from me, I’m watching her play as she asks me “can I have a sister mummy” and I want to sob.

do I stay with him, forgive him? For her sake and our future? Any tips how to bury the pain when you’re around your kids?

So sorry this has happened. Do you have anyone you can talk to and get support from in real life? You don't have to shoulder this all alone. Can he go stay with family to give you space to think or is there someone you could stay with for a few days with your little one? You need space and time and support to process your feelings about this and to work out what you want to do.

Don’t put too much weight on her saying she wants a sister. Mine wanted all sorts at that age. Penguins, green eyes, to be a dog etc.

I agree that if you haven’t already, you should tell somebody. You will get through all of this. It won’t seem like it now but you will.

Don’t listen to your child, her wanting something is not the basis to proceed, or youll have her wanting chocolate muffins for breakfast and a pony in the dining room. She doesn't know the implications of her requests.

He was about to be unfaithful for a reason. Unless that reason no longer exists then it’ll happen again.

He can be trusted. I’d be off. Sorry OP you deserve better. Dont have any more sex wirh this man incase he had strayed already and has an STD now.

So sorry you are going through this 😞 don’t think too much about DD wanting a sister, my DS wanted to fly on a dinosaur at her age. Take time to think about what you want deep down and whether you feel the trust can be repaired