Parenting and partner advice

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I want some advice on a situation. I currently have an 18month old boy and we do everything together. Today I was doing my makeup and he usually likes to get involved by brushing my face with a makeup brush. Today I was putting on lip gloss and put a tiny dab on him and brushed his face with a clean makeup brush as we usually do this and it makes him happy. However, his dad saw this and got angry saying he's not comfortable with me doing it and im putting ideas in the little ones head. I know this stems from a place of negativity and toxic masculinity. How do I navigate this situation? I want my baby growing up without fear or judgement of himself or others wearing makeup. And also the fact hes only playing so its not a big deal. I also cant see how my relationship can be maintained if my partner has a lot of homophobia at his core. Sorry for the long post just a mama needing some advice.

If my husband had done this I would have laughed and told him how ridiculous he was being.
My boys all did this stuff, all had their nails painted at some point too, it’s normal developmental behaviour to imitate adults.

Is this a one off thing? If he has homophobic views then I would struggle to continue a relationship with him,

Sadly its happened before and I thought he wasn't being that serious but today he was full of real genuine anger towards it. I really cant a future with him because of it

I did my son's makeup for Pride a few years ago. Not foundation, but some light eyeshadow colours and a little pink love heart on his cheek with pink eyeliner (I did sanitise EVERYTHING before using it on him). I don't see a problem with it. My son has played with dolls, prams, I used to dress him in leggings (rather than joggers) and bright pink jumpers 😂

It is part of the entertainment, if your DH doesn’t want to watch him whilst you get ready you will need to entertain him somehow. My DH will put a dab of shaving foam on DS 20m if he’s shaving and supervising him, equally he will have his hair brushed and blown and a powder puff if he’s watching me get ready. He loves playing with my brushes and copying me! I think it’s about learning how to get ready, watching about self-care.

Sit down and talk to him, but make it clear even if your son were to be gay, you would support him

DS is simply exploring the world around him through okay, it’s how children learn. I’m not sure how you navigate things with DH, I would really struggle with his homophobic views.